Anyone declined a job offer and then regret it? 😭

[Meltinthemiddle]

I think I have accepted the wrong job offer and I can't stop thinking about it and have been in bed all day feeling like crap. I was swaying between ith jobs but decided to go for the initial job I accepted first. Both were completely different settings in the same industry. I think it has now been re-advertised on Indeed even though they did interview others. I just can't seem to get over it 😢

OMG yes.

Have you started the other job? There’s nothing wrong with going back to the job you turned down and saying ‘I think I made a mistake, could we have another conversation?’ You’ve nothing to lose.

No haven't started yet and no longer ferrl excited about it 😢. I only emailed them this morning to decline it after stressing all weekend. If they had rang first I would have accepted. Both are good places in their own right. I was just worrying too much about upsetting my present employer, other employer etc. Now I feel I I email her they will think I am right Fruit loop and unreliable 😭. I've just made my situation 20 times worse then it was! Honestly I swear the menopause is doing this too me 😭

If you’re sure get back in touch and ask to discuss it, absolutely fine to do so!

Here 😩

I done the same thing and started another job that i had been offered at the same time and knew within two weeks i had made a mistake. I emailed the HR who had made an offer on the 1st job to ask if there was any chance at all to discuss & it turned out the other candidate turned down the offer for another job. and they were about to re advertise so I got the job that i had turned down i initially...

I accepted one and regretted it.
I would, in your shoes, call the company and discuss your options (if there are any). You have nothing to lose and, potentially, a lot to gain. There's nothing worse than accepting the wrong job, trust me!

Yes!! In exactly that same position now. New job is nothing like it was sold to me. Am back on Indeed. Other job has gone

I only declined it this morning.

I did this and contacted them a month later and said it had sat in my mind as one that got away. They had re-recruited and filled the original role but offered me a new position as that persons manager in a more senior role.

If you’re gonna change your mind, be quick before they readvertise or get too far going through their B list (if they have one). Good luck.

If you only declined it this morning could you not style it out and phone them apologising profusely and saying you had another interview and emailed the wrong one by mistake ??!

It's only today. Contact them, ring if possible, apologise, and let them know you've reconsidered. I've done a lot of recruiting and would prefer a good candidate who did this, as long as they were polite about it and clear that they definitely wanted the job and had made a mistake than going through the pile or advertising again.

They have already advertised again this evening hence why I'm wondering if I can admit my mistake. It did disappear on indeed but I'm pretty sure it's just come back on.

Is it worse that they are advertising again though, will they be even more pissed off 😣. I think they have tweaked the wording too.

I mean waiting for the vacancy to close with nobody in post, sifting, arranging an interview panel etc rather than just putting the ad out again. Presumably it's the same one just tweaked so that's not really any bother.

Yes Sam one tweaked. Thank you, I guess I have nothing to lose. I just need to think about how to word it in the email.

Call them, be honest. Don't use the advice above lying you had turned down the wrong job!!

Tell them that after further thought you have realised that you have come to the wrong decision and would love to accept their previous offer if it still stands.

I would say that you’ve had two offers and had already accepted the other one when this offer was made, so you felt obliged to go with your first acceptance, but having now been offered this one you’ve realised how much better suited you are to this one and ask if their offer still stands. Worth a try surely?

Call them, be honest. Don't use the advice above lying you had turned down the wrong job!!

agree. Being honest shows you’re in demand and have some moral misgivings about letting down the other employer. Saying you replied to the wrong job makes you sound like a twat 😂

OK I guess I have nothing to lose, just feel embarrassed. I think I'm worrying about my current patients as people are leaving and they will be without care.

This is what I'd do. Makes you look like you just turned them down due to timing.

I did say I accepted my initial offer already in my email but could mention because I thought I was unsuccessful. They did take longer to get back to me then they said.

How did it go @Meltinthemiddle ?

I emailed them and they rang me and really happy to have me if I definitely want the job. Thanks for the advice everyone. I've put my notice in so now just need to contact other employer.