Why aren't I liked? Feel a bit sad

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I've posted about this before but I'm struggling a bit -so please don't be nasty.
I'm a bit of a pushover ,I had a friend for over 15 years who basically ripped the ....out of me but I took it.
When it was just me and her she was lovely,in groups I was always the but of her jokes.
Anyway I started dating her good friend and she absolutely hated it-it lasted 9 months but the venom really came out.
We were hanging around in a big group and she caused trouble.
She made a big falling out between us two and told ridiculous amounts of lies between us-told the whole group if I was there she wouldn't be.
Obviously the group was a well established group so I got booted .
The relationship broke down between me and him because of everything and he listened to her lies (because why would a friend of 15 years lie eh )
Anyway fast forward 15 months and he has got married
I still have mutual friends on social media
Pics of my ex friend and his new wife (who were strangers ) friends arm around her and all of the group smiling away
Then ex friend has a friend out with them who's joined the group all pally pally.
Why not me? Why couldn't she be a friend to me?
Why did she treat me so shitty ?
I lent her money,babysat her kids
She was constantly slagging me off "too skinny"
"Why does she dress so fancy during the day"
"Who does she think she is "
(All things I was told through mutual friends )
Why couldn't he just see she hated me and had it in for me
I'm so sad today

I wouldn't look at the SM, tbh, if all it's going to do is upset you & bring back unhappy memories. This person wasn't your friend, you were her entertainment. Get yourself out & about, join things that you're interested in, make new, real friends.
Count your blessings for the good things in your life, & keep busy so that you can blank the bad stuff. Hugs..

She was jealous of you, and this new replacement sucks up to her more, than you did. They will all fall out, just wait it out.

15 years of friendship and she could do that to me-it's honestly a bitter pill to swallow.
He didn't have my back at all,and I still miss him.
I was replaceable to him and didn't care how hurt I was over it all.

Group think can be quite dangerous, I have been the victim of it as well, as in "you are wrong, because we all think the same thing, so our group can't be wrong, it has to be you." Roll on 15 months, and no, the group think has disintegrated, the group realize much of their behavior was blindly abusive, and the message now is "ok, maybe we overstepped the mark, but don't take it all so seriously". Erm please eff off, I have had to be really, really resilient to stand up to the crap and weather the storm, and it has been mind-blowingly hurtful to me, and I am still dealing with the fall out and the gossip.

I've been there, it is incredibly hurtful, it's not you, it's them. Be like an oak and weather the storm, they will eventually understand the error of their ways, but it takes time. Seek out kinder, nicer, more sane people.

I’m sorry you’ve been through this OP, I had something similar. “Best friend” of 16 years, maid of honour at my wedding, totally ghosted me after I had my first baby. Deleted me on social media, left our group WhatsApp chat, gone. Then posted something a few months later about “cutting out people who don’t bring anything to your life”, which I saw because I still followed her at that point - I don’t anymore. I found out since that she was frequently horrible about me to mutual friends, deliberately stopped me and a mutual friend from having a relationship (many many years ago) because she was jealous, and had generally been awful and not at all the friend I thought she was. It’s heartbreaking and you feel like such an idiot, but try to remember that the issues are hers, not yours. It’s unfortunate your mutual friend group cut you out too, but clearly they’re not worth your time either. Try to focus now on building new friendships or enjoying the ones you have with the people who are actually worth hanging around with; it will get better and hurt less with time.