She’s dying

[RootinandTootin]

My SIL is in hospital, she has had a brain tumour for as long as I’ve known her pretty much. It was benign up until a few months ago. She was undergoing treatment recently as it had grown. Now it’s all stopped and there is nothing they can do. It just feels so unfair and shocking. I’m being strong to support my husband but it always in my mind. I just need to let it out. I’m just so terribly sad for her. I don’t know what to do to help and I feel useless. I’ve lost people close to me but I feel devastated for her family and it hurts my heart to see my husband cry.

I'm so sorry op.

So sorry. Life is so unfair and cruel sometimes 😪

It is an awful place to be for everyone and so bloody unfair. Holding your hand from afar.

Thanks all. I just hope she isn’t scared. I wish it was a bad dream. So many plans unrealised. She’s been robbed. It makes me feel sick to my stomach

I’m sorry op. That’s awful 💐

That is so sad. I'm so sorry for her and her family. All you can do is be the strong one for your husband and your in-laws. 💐

i just can’t understand it. She was cooking us all lunch on Sunday and by Tuesday paralysed and now that’s it. I just want it to stop.

I wish I had the right words. I’m so sorry to hear this.

Your husband will be very glad of your support ❤️

Uggh, god I’m so sorry. It’s too horrible for words. I accept that we all have to die, but I do so wish no one died like that - under a hideous death sentence. If only we all passed away in our sleep. Maybe one day science will advance to the point where no one dies of ghastly things like cancer, but just fades away, preferably high and happy on some blissful new drug.

I really am so sorry OP.

So sorry OP. Brain tumours have haunted my life, my dad died of one when I was a teen and my mother in law dying of one now, I feel your pain. X

I’m so sorry, I have no words to comfort you. x

I’m so very sorry, prayers and love to you all xx

My BIL had pancreatic cancer. didnt tell no-one until he collapsed and fell into a coma and his body shut down. 12hours later and he passed. It was tough as he didnt tell no-one and he knew for the past 3 months. No goodbyes.
All you can do is be there for him when he needs a cuddle, or just to listen to him, and make sure he speaks to his sister and spends lots of time with her xx

I'm so very sorry.

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I don’t have the right words, it’s bloody unfair. My friend died from one, it was so sad. Just be there for your DH. 💐

I'm so sorry for the situation you're finding yourself in ❤️

You sound like you're a wonderful family member, and one who's presence will very much be felt.

I'm so sorry @RootinandTootin, and for your husband and your family, and of course your sister in law. I hope she has a peaceful and dignified passing.

All you can do is be there for your husband and your family. He may be angry, upset and frustrated for a while. You will feel the same way. Just be kind and love each other.

I just wanted to thank everyone who commented. It’s just been such a shock. When we went to see her I just couldn’t believe how she’s been robbed of her own body. She seems comfortable but like a different person visually. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. But all your kind words have helped me process and get back to being strong for the family. They are all brilliant too. Watching my husband be so kind and caring to her make me so proud of him. Sorry for the soppy post but I just wanted to update

@RootinandTootin, your last post isn't soppy at all.
My DCousin is currently terminally ill with bowel cancer. They've also lived with MS for a long time. The cancer was in remission for a couple of years and they are now in the end game. They're younger than me and it feels so wrong that they will die soon. I really understand how you feel.