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Scotland or SE England

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Narnyan · 09/10/2022 05:20

Currently living in Scotland but family are all in SE. I've been here years and years, they're getting older and I'm considering moving back down. But it's hard to take the plunge. Anybody else make this move (either way around) and are you happy with the choice?

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Londonnight · 09/10/2022 06:04

I made this move 12 years ago, Scotland to England. I had lived in Scotland for 20 years, parents are in Cambridgeshire. I got to a point where I just felt it was too far away with my parents getting older and frailer.

I have never regretted this move and I am able to visit my parents far more than I would have been able to while still living in Scotland.

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 06:58

Gosh thank you, this is just the kind of thing I need to hear. On this side I'm hearing over population, climate change and expensiveness as reasons to stay (from friends) and it's really skewing my view and giving me the heebie jeebies. Obviously it's a bad time to move £ wise but I was always aware that I'd have to mortgage up when the time came. Thanks for sharing

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Narnyan · 09/10/2022 12:30

Little bump

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Narnyan · 09/10/2022 17:40

Quick evening bump as would love more opinions :-)

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LearnerCook · 09/10/2022 17:42

I've been living in Scotland for 7 or 8 years. I do live it but am beginning to feel pangs and wanting to move back south of the border. I k ow it will happen eventually but I'm feeling inpatient. The political 'situation' up here gives the whole place a bad taste, IMO.

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 17:46

Thanks, I know what you mean. I love it too but also can't shake the sense that I don't really belong...

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midgetastic · 09/10/2022 17:51

I've gone the other way but for the same reasons and it's been the best thing

But I think the pull was more than just my mother - Although don't belong anywhere as I left my hometown so long ago for work but this ( not hometown but close ) place feels like home and suits me better

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 20:21

It's funny isn't it how 'home' is so complicated

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Riverlee · 09/10/2022 20:23

What are you concerned about regarding the SE? Like all areas, there’s nice and nasty places.

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 20:27

Nothing about SE specifically, I guess it's just moving from Scotland to England. Loads of people, boiling hot summers, crazy house prices. But...I miss my family and my parents are getting too old to come up here so I suppose I started this thread because I'm hoping it will boost my courage to go. I'm an awful procrastinator and I overthink it all. It is a massive life change and I have little ones to consider. My heart says we need to go but I'm conscious their future is in the mix

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Wardrobemalfunction22 · 09/10/2022 20:33

I moved to Scotland nearly 15 years ago from England. Married a Scot and our kids born here so not likely to move soon. My parents were in SE England until 4 years ago when they decided (quite boldly) to relocate near to us. They sold their house, made a massive profit.and bought a place 10mins from us with no mortgage. They decided to do it before they got too old and couldn't. Its been brilliant having them so close after 10 years of being 6+ hours away.

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 20:37

You know, I suggested that @Wardrobemalfunction22 but no cigar. I'm sad about that but not surprised, they've lived their whole lives down there

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Wardrobemalfunction22 · 09/10/2022 21:39

Would they consider it for the financial benefits? Selling a house in SE England could mean they release equity to benefit them later in life as well as allow them to move somewhere better suited to their next stage of life? My DPs went from a large family house down south, which would be too big for them to look after in the next 10 years, to a more manageable bungalow with a small garden and much more energy efficient. My mum who has lived in SE nearly her whole life has settled in really well, says people are much friendlier and she doesn't miss anything about SE. Especially during the heatwave and drought when we were fine but their old town had hosepipe bans and major heat issues. They have better healthcare here and have basically been tourists visiting new places every week the last few years so really enjoying their retirement!

Narnyan · 09/10/2022 21:51

No I have asked, but they have other grandchildren down there too. It just won't happen :-(

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Narnyan · 10/10/2022 06:54

I must admit, better health care is on my pro Scotland list!

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midgetastic · 10/10/2022 07:59

What's the house price difference?
That could fund a lot of trains
and hotels?

I don't have asthma anything like as bad since I moved back north - lower pollution I suspect

I think you are in a tricky spot op

Narnyan · 10/10/2022 08:05

Yes very tricky! Very small children so travel isn't easy. House prices double (and more) what they are here but we've been saving with an awareness of that. Won't be able to afford anything like what we have here though. We would have extended family around though and I'd be lying if I said I've really missed that support with the kids being so small. It's been hard! Both work full time and both kids under 5.

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Adieufattummy · 10/10/2022 08:13

We did this move last year - big Scottish city to SE.

We have not regretted it and are very happy we moved.

Pros are -

Weather is sooouch better. Yes we had a few boiling hot days but generally speaking summer is much warmer, starts earlier in the year and finishes later. You don’t feel the pressure that you get in Scotland when it’s warm outside of ‘must go out and not waste the nice day’ as you know that tomorrow and the next day will be the same. Winter seems milder too. I lived in Scotland for decades and was just so sick of rain and shit weather especially in the summer when it was nice everywhere else.

Lots to do - we are near beaches, London, forests, little market towns, NT properties, lovely walks - we do something different every weekend. The city we live in is beautiful.

Schools - seem better. They seem to push kids harder with higher attainment standards and our kids are thriving.

In terms of cost we were in Edinburgh so haven’t found it much more expensive. But if you’re coming from anywhere else it’s likely you will find it far pricier.

Had no problem seeing doctor and DH was referred very quickly for health issue and seen at hospital within the month.

There are no NHS dentists down here to be found for adults so that’s a consideration.

Lots and lots of jobs so much more of an employee’s market.

We do miss the beautiful scenery of Scotland but come up to visit once or twice a year.

And not sure about your politics but not having to listen to Nicola bang on about independence and the constant uncertainty of another awful referendum is a plus for us. I’m no Tory voter but was so sick of this.

No doubt someone in Scotland will be along soon to pick apart everything I’ve said, this is Mumsnet after all! Not here to debate, just sharing my experiences.

Good luck!

midgetastic · 10/10/2022 08:13

With children - once they are in school spending a week or 2 with grandparents in the summer is a great help and doesn't require them to be local! As you parents get older however they might be less keen on regular childcare such a school pick ups

Don't think back on the last 5 years - think ahead the next 10

Narnyan · 10/10/2022 08:17

@Adieufattummy thanks so much for sharing your experience and thoughts, I really appreciate hearing this and a lot of it resonates!

@midgetastic that's good advice, to think further ahead

This has really helped me clarify thank you!

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