What do I tell new employer?

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I need to give 3 years of references. I've always had solid jobs for a long time until this period of my life.

Basically I started a job in 2018, left late 2019 because I had a still birth, and had a massive break down. Was out of work / sectioned from December 2019 to September 2020, got a full time job in September, way too early. Left in may 2021. Got some more serious intervention, cared for a family member for 6 months. Got a job November 2021 and had another late miscarriage at 28 weeks in January this year. I've been of ever since.

However I have had some really really intense therapy as an inpatient, continued 5 days a week as an out patient. I feel 100% better. I know why I've had my losses and I've had treatment to stop it happening again. I am on medication now etc.

I've been offered a full time job that is perfect for me. But what the fuck do I say? Oh I had some massive mental health problems but it's fixed now honest? I shouldn't have ever accepted the position in September 2020.

I know this job is a good fit for me and I am in a position to actually do the job but my work history does not look good 🤦‍♀️

Please help me

Just tell them you had some issues with your health and had to go into hospital but it’s over now. You don’t need to go into detail.

And I’m sorry for your losses. All the best in your new job

Firstly, I’m sorry all this has happened to you and having had a breakdown, I know how hard it is to get back onto a “normal” path again.

I think I would be fairly honest and say that you had a still birth which was traumatic and you took some time off work to recover, then sadly you had a miscarriage which set you back, but now you’re feeling very much in the right side of things and raring to go with the challenges of a new job.

Good luck with it all xx

Let them have references before your stillbirth then explain you had a serious health issue, now ok, but you took time out to recover properly.
I'm sorry for your losses.

Thank you all so much. I think I will be honest but brief

I'm really sorry too, what a dreadful time you've had if it 💐

yep I'd give them any previous references, then say you've had a health issue, which is thankfully now resolved (🤞🏼🤞🏼❤️) and you're ready for a new challenge.

(or personal or family)

youve already been offered the job, so hopefully this is more if a formality than anything else