Medical professional asking if you wished you had an abortion.

[Cookiemonstersnana]

I drove my niece and her son (18 months) to the hospital last week.
My great nephew has very complex health problems. Life limiting.
Doesn't talk, can't walk and has sight problems plus lots of other issues.
Niece came out very distraught after seeing a new doctor who she
says asked her as she was informed during her pregnancy about these
problems why didn't she abort.
Niece struggles to get help with her son from the professionals but now
feels as though she is in the wrong to not abort. (Religious reasons not to)

If you were informed would you have had an abortion. When is it right or wrong
what if the scans etc were wrong. How bad should the babies health problems be.

She is now very scared that this doctor will stop any help to begin the end
nearer. As a family we are trying to help her understand that this can't happen.
She is crying and very depressed. Niece has a GP appointment next week to
talk to someone who knows her and her son.

We don’t know what their rationale was for asking. They could have asked in a roundabout way with much more sensitivity, but they didn’t and it’s crap that their approach caused upset for OP’s niece.

I can see logically why they asked as a means to try and get an understanding of mum’s point of view, and get some insight into the values and beliefs that influenced her continuing with the pregnancy. Too much or a lack of trust in doctors, her views on the sanctity of life, how she balances quality and quantity of life- these things could all potentially impact her relationship with her dc’s medical team, so I can see why they’d want to get to know more about the background.

But goodness me there’s better ways to go about it.