Do people assume you have a 'type' based on their perception of you?

[DaydreamBelieve]

Okay I'm not sure my question makes sense. Basically, after a very very long term relationship my now dp is the cause of many a comment like 'didn't know you were his type?', i wouldn't have put you 2 together. didn't know you were into rough guys! etc. Some comments probably come across as rude but I dont think thats how people mean it.

Comments are from a mix of people who know me well to people who i'm just acquaintance with. I'v even been out with him and people have assumed we're not together eg waiting in a line at a restaurant and waiter asking if i want a table for one when he's stood right next to me!

I'm quiet, shy, very very plain jane, frumpy even, you wouldnt even notice me if I walked passed you on the street. Ex dp was average bloke too.

New dp is also average but is quite heavily tattooed not all over body or face or anything but his arms. He hair is long usually tied up in a messy bun. He's super confident and chatty - complete opposite to me. But tbh when we are together we get along so well and really enjoy each others company. I am very comfortable with him .

i think my 'type' according to other people is your average joe and his 'type' must be - i dont know - some hot blonde woman?!

Have you ever seen 2 people together and thought i wouldn't have put you two together and has it worked long term?

Bump!

Another shove!

Yes, my DH is handsome and financially successful. I think people assume he'll have a trophy wife. I'm not that.

I wouldn't look too deeply into it OP, it sounds like it's based almost entirely on the fact he has tattoos etc - people assume that equates to somebody a bit 'alternative' and probably don't place that with someone who doesn't look as though that would be their lifestyle at all. I don't think it has to do with people thinking his type would be a 'hot blonde', just a very different physical type of physical appearance.

It only means as much as you want it to mean. Just enjoy your time together and focus on that.

Your friends are bloody rude. I would expect no other comments on any chap of mine other than how pleasant he was when they met, just like any other friend of mine.

On meeting dh, most people have said "oh, I expected your dh to be dark haired." Think they imagined a Mr Rochester type, despite the blonde/blue eyed DC.

He's very fair, freckles a bit, but imo incredibly handsome. More old fogey than style aficionado though. Loves a cardi and Panama hat. Has never owned a pair of jeans and would pale at the thought of wearing trainers off the field.

Yes, people are always shocked when they find out. I’m not sure why though. He looks a bit older and I look a bit younger so there appears to be an age difference I suppose.