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Fired!

26 replies

Morehousework · 04/10/2022 04:54

Finally found a brilliant job. I found it hard to take control, and I’ve been let go - my IT skills weren’t up to it. I feel so stupid. Plus what do I tell Dh?
can I tell him she’s decided to move the work in house or something? I can’t say I cocked up, he’ll go mad.
He was so happy I’d finally found something. Totally I’ll with worry. What do I do? How do I find another job?

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Shoxfordian · 04/10/2022 06:27

Unless he’ll be violent or abusive then you should tell your dh the truth and look for something else straight away - look at temporary office work as a start

greenacrylicpaint · 04/10/2022 06:34

sorry you are in this situation Sad

these things happen, that's what probation is for.

look what you have struggled with and see if you can find online tutorials before applying for new jobs.

RampantIvy · 04/10/2022 06:38

I find it rather worrying that you have an unsupportive DH.

StillNotWarm · 04/10/2022 06:48

Tell DH the fit wasn't right, and she didn't employ you after probation.
Then work on your IT skills (if it's generic computer packages, there may be something at a local college), and get applying again.
Unless you have safety concerns about telling DH, just tell him. He needs to know asap. If you think you are in danger telling him, you need to move out.

TheRookie · 04/10/2022 06:50

Have you not talked about how it's been going over the last little while? Does he have any idea it wasn't going well?

Pinkypong · 04/10/2022 07:19

He doesn’t really ask. He has a lot on.
as for temporary office work, how do I train for that? I am so anxious I can’t think straight. I seem to have no skills and they always seem to want something else.

RewildingAmbridge · 04/10/2022 07:22

What can you actually do? Apply for something within your capabilities. What went wrong in this role, why couldn't you pull it back and meet expectations, were theirs unreasonable or have you just managed to interview well for something you knew you couldn't do?

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Morehousework · 04/10/2022 08:07

It was a new role in the company and I genuinely thought I could do a great job. I think I didn’t realise the struggle of getting on top of a new role after being out of work. I also just seemed to get it wrong from day 1.

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Redqueenheart · 04/10/2022 09:31

if that can make you feel a bit better I just handed out my resignation after starting a new role only 3 weeks ago.

It looked good on paper but I hated the job from day one, it was the wrong fit in term of work culture and it really wasn't what I expected from the interview and job description so I was planning to resign during the probation period.

By coincidence, I was offered an interview last week for a job I had applied for about a month ago and they offered me the position, so I quit.

So it just shows that it does happen that a job is not the right fit and that's what probation periods are for, it doesn't mean you won't be able to find something better that really suits you within a reasonable amount of time.

SnarkyBag · 04/10/2022 09:42

Taking on a new role is hard for anyone especially if you’ve had a gap. I’ve just changed jobs to which on paper is pretty much what I’ve always done but bloody hell it’s been one of the most overwhelming things I’ve done!

Don’t be hard on yourself and try not to let this knock your confidence. It’s probably better if it came to an end quicker than you spending months and months out of your depth

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Hoppinggreen · 04/10/2022 11:24

unless you lied then it’s largely your employers fault

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Morehousework · 05/10/2022 06:57

Thanks. Just feeling totally knocked and useless .

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girlmom21 · 05/10/2022 07:03

You need to tell him the truth. It doesn't sound like you messed up to be honest, just that it wasn't the right role for your skill set.

ChampagneCamping · 05/10/2022 07:07

its fate, there’s something more suitable ahead

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Morehousework · 05/10/2022 18:15

God I hope so, I hate feeling like this.useless and that I cocked up. For the first time in years I was feeling like a proper person and Dh and I are getting on a lot better. I don’t want that to end!
She has just said she’s realised it’s a bigger role and she needs someone with experience and she hasn’t time to train me, especially with the economic climate. I understood that she knew my skills and that was happy for me to learn on the job, but I guess that’s changed. She has apologised and will still use me for bits when she can. Major sucks. I guess she is feeling her way - it’s a new venture for her. Certainly what I thought I was going to do was different to what I ended up doing.
im just so upset and disappointed. I really thought this would be a positive change.
had to get on the bus in the rain and hand in lap top. I’m so depressed and disappointed how do I come back from utter bottom - again.

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HappyHamsters · 05/10/2022 18:21

Thats bad of her if she took you on knowing you would need training which she couldnt actually offer. Has she paid you.

girlmom21 · 05/10/2022 18:25

That's pretty out of order for her to let you go because she didn't understand the level of work required. She should have kept you on and got someone in to train you up. That's really unfair.

BorisByCandlelight · 05/10/2022 18:40

That sounds quite rough op and also partly your manager's fault!

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Morehousework · 05/10/2022 18:55

Thanks! She’s a very nice person, and it’s her small company so I guess she has to make these decisions. She has paid me plus week so she is very fair. I think I also was just out of practice. It was a new set up, so all a bit over the place and I guess I should have run with that more. I don’t know, I couldn’t seem to do right from the start. I did love it though! I know I could have got to grips with anything thrown at me. But I guess she needs someone with experience and I don’t have that, I’d be learning which could be expensive I guess.

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Minimalme · 05/10/2022 19:09

I think you are just very low in confidence op (possibly because your husband is unsupportive and quite bullying?).

It doesn't sound as though you did anything wrong. No one starts a new job being able to do it all - they need time to find their feet and help to learn new IT systems.

Honestly it sounds like your boss has changed her mind about the role rather than you.

You have been treated unfairly, at home and at work.

I hope you can start to see that you aren't the problem.

FleeUpFreeTime · 05/10/2022 19:18

I hated the job so I’m off to sign up for agency work - then off you go to sign up

VeridicalVagabond · 05/10/2022 20:11

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. Did you make a post about this the other day, you're coming back to employment from being a SAHM, something to do with not being able to use Google Drive? It feels familiar, sorry if not actually you!

It sucks, and it doesn't sound like she's done a great job as a manager, but these things do happen. Sometimes it's just not the right fit. What sort of work are you looking for?

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Morehousework · 05/10/2022 20:48

Thanks minimalme, I’m certainly struggling with confidence! Thanks for saying I’m not the problem, tho not sure why Dh is bullying? He may have been in the past so I’m interested why you think that.
yes veriducal that was me. I got a bit desperate!
im looking for anything !

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Familiartoast · 05/10/2022 20:59

What was the nature of this job op? Was it something similar to what you have done before? Please don’t beat yourself up about it, this may be just what you need as something better is round the corner

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