How do I explain to ds - he is going to be so upset

[MrsPear]

I’ve booked him a party. We have a class list. I’ve sent out invitations and no one has said yes: it appears the vast majority are out on a group meet which he is not invited. How do I explain that? It’s a group thing si needs 10. We only needed 8 to accept as there is him and brother. I feel so sorry for him - his brother had the same thing at the same age and I ended up paying for extras.

Could you move the date so his classmates can make it?

Oh how awful. Could you change the date?

Move the date.

Ugh I'm so sorry. I hate people sometimes. If you can't get the numbers together is there any chance you can get the money back for the party and do something else? A cool family day out maybe? Tell ds that the venue has had to cancel. It's a white lie that will save his feelings from being hurt. So sorry for the poor boy.

Change the date for sure.

Change the date or does he have other friends from clubs etc that you can fill it up with?

Definitely try and change the date. I once booked my sons and then realised that most of the boys were on a cubs camp and had to move it. My younger DS is a late August birthday and we had to completely cancel his party one year as everyone was on holiday (we moved it to July for subsequent years)

I can try but I just feel fobbed off which probably is probably me projecting. I’ll ring the venue and see if it’s a possibility.

Just change the date. People should have responded but it seems that is last century.
I would message and say "it seems Bobby's party clashes with something. Let's try again for xx date. I'd appreciate a response so I can confirm the booking"
Just tell your son, the date of the party doesn't work and you are going to try again.