My baby doesn't care about me!

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Title slightly lighthearted!

I have a 3 month old and she will literally go to anyone. She will happily sit cooing and giggling with family members she's met for the first time and doesn't seem to be bothered if I'm not around.

Does this mean she hasn't established a strong attachment with me? I feel like she just doesn't care about me!

Nope not at all.

It's a new face to look at, and a new funny voice that's all.

The time will come where she won't go to anyone and be stuck on your hip

At 3 months old they don't really know who you are tbh. They can't see as well as you may imagine up until this point so you will start to get a bond going forward when they can see your face and expressions

My child only cared about 18 months old and started to be upset if I left and to call for me. I didn't take it that she didn't care about me before, just she was very happy and independent with my family members.

She used to wave goodbye without a care in the world haha! Now we have lots of emotions when I leave for work which is actually really heart breaking.

Once they're a bit older, being happy to go to anyone is often a sign of a good attachment, not a lack of one. The theory is that if they're very attached to their main caregiver(s) then they feel secure leaving them as they know they'll always be there.

My mum used to say that I'd go to anyone, give me a lap to sit in and a cuddle and I'd be happy. My sibling was the opposite.
I'm still happy with a lap and a cuddle (😉), and form and maintain relationships easily. My sib is a 'stand-off-don't-touch-me' kind of person, who needs a lot of attention.
Go figure.
Sounds like your baby is a happy little soul. it may not remain that way, but it did for me. And I'm still close to my mum, but now I'm the one looking after her.

I’d say you have a very strong attachment and that’s why she’s happy to go to other people, because she knows you will come back…. Be glad of the break!

My baby was the same at that age. Now he's 1 , I can't leave the room without him bawling. Enjoy it while it lasts

Couldn't agree more 😂