How to manage broodiness when you're early 30s but the time isn't right?

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I surprisingly met DP 6 months ago. I'm really very happy and hoping for the best. I'm 32 and he's 36.

We still need to get to know each other, and I am really enjoying being a couple. I'm religious and it's important to me to be married before kids. He's always loved weddings and would like a fairly big one.

I know I'm getting away with myself because it's only been 6 months but the thought of waiting 3+ years to even begin to ttc makes me feel so panicky. I'd be 35, at least. He'd be 39. It just seems so long to wait.

I’m in the same boat. By the time we think about getting married I’ll be at least 37 then a baby could take a while to conceive. For me I always believe what is the point of waiting if you’re sure it’s what you want but you need to get your partners input. Have you ever spoke about timelines before? It’s important to make sure you both want the same things at the same time or it will never work. Before you know it your fertility will be gone so don’t waste your good years if you can help it. Speak to him and go from there, if it doesn’t match up to your ideas then reconsider your options. Also there is nothing wrong with ttc before marriage, it’s all about priorities.

We've spoken about kids and long-term in the 'ideal' but the next conversation has to be in reality I think. It seems a big one.

I don't particularly care about a big wedding but I do really care about being married before kids. I need to make sure he knows that too I think.

Oh to have met him at 21.