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How to approach impulsiveness?

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Monica261 · 02/10/2022 08:03

Hello! Advice needed: our 6-y.o. boy is a very kind, well-behaved boy – most of the time. His teacher and us (his parents) are observing the same behaviour: he would listen to instructions, understood it (we all double-check) but then he’d do exactly what we just told him not to do. It’s not out of malice, his teacher calls it “impulsiveness”, we call it “not stopping to think if what he’s planning to do is a good idea”. When he does something silly, he immediately feels disappointed in himself and knows exactly what he did wrong but does it again a second later. His teacher is saying this is not typical behaviour for his age, which is why we’re looking for different approaches.
Anyone managed to come up with something that worked to make their child stop and think for a second before acting? It’s not a massive issue quite yet, as there’s always an adult with him but I’m worried he will continue acting on his impulses when he’s older and will be goaded into dangerous situations.

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losingit31 · 02/10/2022 14:07

Has the possibility of the impulse type of ADHD been explored?

junebirthdaygirl · 02/10/2022 14:42

Could you stress the positive action as he may be hearing one word..so instead of don't walk on the grass..he hears grass..say walk on the path...he hears path.
Give very short instructions with only one item as his concentration could be poor for the long speech. Even if he is showing signs of ADHD you will still need coping methods.
Try not to focus too much on his misdemeanours but more on his positive actions as he will get disheartened.

Cut him some slack !

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