Until recently I didn’t really know anything about either of these things, until DD was out on the autism pathway by the GP. Have been trying to find out more, and have been confused as so much seems to relate to me, including the things about ADHD. Not going to list everything, but a few key things I guess are:
- Poor time awareness;
- Need things to be even and straight, eg can’t relax if a picture or place mat is crooked, it makes my head hurt;
- Liking people but not understanding them and not good with establishing friendships, plus friends I considered close will sometimes suddenly drop me and I have no idea why;
- Either can’t focus or extremely focused for hours and forget things like eating;
- V sensitive to textures, both food and clothes;
- So disorganised and overwhelmed most of the time, tend to just freeze as can’t manage it, manifests as avoidance.
Am I imagining things? Does this sound like ADHD / autism? My mum is on the spectrum, and friends have said they think I am too. Feeling so guilty that DD’s struggles could be my fault. Plus she hates how I struggle with organisation as she is terrible with transitions and change and disorder. Her father is super organised and she wants to live with him. It won’t happen but I cannot shake this guilt.