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Original poster

Does your husband do this when he’s planning to go out?

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Madagascary · 01/10/2022 17:20

So we all know when he wants to go to the pub in the evening, but he will never say during the day that these are his plans.

But we can spot all sorts of signs throughout the day. Showering later / again. Being weirdly chatty 😀😀

He will even deny he’s going to go to the pub but the rest of us know that he’s going to. Eventually he comes up with some premise whereby he might stop in for a pint and we all know yes we know that all day. Is this Just him?

(I really don’t mind if he does !)

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cooolio · 01/10/2022 18:32

My dad does it 🤣

butterpuffed · 01/10/2022 18:35

Madagascary · 01/10/2022 18:07

Oh I love being alone! Don’t feel the need to do something.
I think many of you have deliberately chosen to misunderstand the teasing nature of this

They do seem to be deliberately misunderstanding . You have a light hearted approach , which is so much better .

Original poster
Madagascary · 01/10/2022 18:35

now you’ve got it.

just returned from dropping visiting son at his friends, still think there’s room for him to go

😀😀

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Madagascary · 01/10/2022 18:37

BigSandyBalls2015 · 01/10/2022 18:18

DH will mention very loose plans, which involve waiting for a text from a friend or two. None of the group seem to know if they are actually going out until that evening.

I find it odd, I make plans in advance with my friends and we know for sure where we are going and what time 🤷🏼‍♀️

This. Might see Dave later. Then a stupid premise “he had a job interview “. I’m like FINE

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IsleofDen · 01/10/2022 18:45

For the first 10 years we were together my DP was like this. Nervous and kind of weird about it, getting ready but not saying anything until he was practically out the door despite the fact that I LOVE being alone and have never objected to his going out - In fact I encourage it when I'm craving space!

Somewhere along the line, he got over it and now he just lets me know he has plans.

I took the piss out of it too, so you aren't alone.

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Madagascary · 01/10/2022 19:12

Right. It’s game over.

he’s in his dressing gown

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WhackingPhoenix · 01/10/2022 19:14

Noentrymeansnoentry · 01/10/2022 17:29

If he's having an extra shower during the day, is it definitely the pub he's going to?Are you sure he's not going to a woman's house?

Wouldn’t you have a wash if you were going out? Confused

I’m going to the pub shortly and I’ve just showered. Perhaps my DP thinks I’m going to meet someone for a quick bunk up!

DickDarstedly · 01/10/2022 19:18

Most people on this thread are being silly. My DH doesn’t do this particular thing but I can think of any number of similar funny habits he has that we tease him about. And vice versa, DH teases me. It really isn’t sinister or a sign of deeper issues.

How often does OP have to say it’s a good natured situation?

Crocky · 01/10/2022 19:27

Madagascary · 01/10/2022 18:00

I never mind. Kids are all adults and I go out lots too, we’ve been married for 89 years. It’s all cool.

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Wow, that’s some sort of record surely 😁😁

ijustcouldntthinkofausername · 01/10/2022 19:30

Wow you've been married for 89 years!!
How is he managing to even get in the shower , never mind twice. Surely he's over 100yrs old! 😂😂
Fairy play to him still getting down that pub

I'm assuming it was a typo but it made me chuckle 😆😆

TimeforZeroes · 01/10/2022 19:30

Some people just have a little bit of tentative awareness about going out when they know the other half needs to stay in. It’s not necessarily because their partner is controlling or manipulative or whatever else - it’s just a background awareness of splitting the load. I totally get it OP. People are being really odd.

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Madagascary · 01/10/2022 19:45

He’s now “not watching “ strictly.
i don’t need to explain how that works.

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itsgettingweird · 01/10/2022 19:49

Madagascary · 01/10/2022 19:12

Right. It’s game over.

he’s in his dressing gown

Not the dressing gown of doom Shock

Maybe he's getting man flu and needs to go to the pub for a medicinal whisky?!

MrsArrDee · 01/10/2022 19:56

Well I'm 100% certain my DH isn't going to the pub later. He came in from work, ate his tea, had a shower and put his pyjamas on.

This is a man, who until yesterday, had never worn pyjamas. I am pretending to sulk, as I am the pyjama fanatic in our house, and DD and DH bought new sets yesterday and I didn't (I feel so left out)

thenewduchessoflapland · 01/10/2022 19:58

In our house;

The husband "do we have any plans on x day morning/evening/afternoon"

Me "let me check;nope nothing planned then"

The husband;" okay I'm doing x with x person"

Me "Okay"

And vice versa for me;I check he's free on x day evening (due to work commitments) and If he is I tell him I've made plans with x person.

Mookie81 · 01/10/2022 20:00

RichardsGear · 01/10/2022 18:10

Christ, so the OP is controlling, she and her children are borderline emotional abusers and he might well be having an affair.
I don't know why anyone bothers to start a thread on here, to be quite honest.

I know, some people are fucking bores looking for an argument or to bring down someone's lighthearted fun.
Such a drain.

deedledeedledum · 01/10/2022 20:08

MolliciousIntent · 01/10/2022 17:27

I think it's really weird that you have a family chat group without him where you all dissect his behaviour. I'd be going to the pub without you lot too.

🙄

Susurrar · 01/10/2022 20:39

My partner does something similar. He’ll say: “X (friend’s name) messaged about going out tonight. I am too tired, definitely not going out” . Then I see him getting ready but still definitely not going. Then I see him fully ready, still probably not going but maybe would consider it. Final stage is “I might just go, do you mind”. By then, he usually wearing his coat already.

Fuck knows why he does it. I love being alone every now and again, honestly don’t mind him going out (I encourage it!) and go out a fair bit myself.

Loveatortie · 01/10/2022 20:40

You have been married 89 years, jeez you must be 100+

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Madagascary · 01/10/2022 20:48

Susurrar · 01/10/2022 20:39

My partner does something similar. He’ll say: “X (friend’s name) messaged about going out tonight. I am too tired, definitely not going out” . Then I see him getting ready but still definitely not going. Then I see him fully ready, still probably not going but maybe would consider it. Final stage is “I might just go, do you mind”. By then, he usually wearing his coat already.

Fuck knows why he does it. I love being alone every now and again, honestly don’t mind him going out (I encourage it!) and go out a fair bit myself.

Hooting at this. 😀😀

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Original poster
Madagascary · 01/10/2022 20:48

Loveatortie · 01/10/2022 20:40

You have been married 89 years, jeez you must be 100+

It. Was. A. Joke.

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Madagascary · 02/10/2022 15:38

Those of you enjoying this might be disappointed to know that today he said “I’m not putting up with this crap anymore I’m telling you now im going out for a drink tonight!”.

We collapsed in hysterics 😀😀

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SingingSands · 02/10/2022 15:46

Madagascary · 02/10/2022 15:38

Those of you enjoying this might be disappointed to know that today he said “I’m not putting up with this crap anymore I’m telling you now im going out for a drink tonight!”.

We collapsed in hysterics 😀😀

Brilliant 😄

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