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Working at local riding stables in 80s/90s, anyone remember this?

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Carrotsgrowintheground · 30/09/2022 15:27

May just have been my local stables and possibly others were more moral and fair but does anyone else remember this? We were allowed to just hang around all day, walking horses on lead reins for little children, saddling up, mucking out, feeding, in return for free rides.

The women who worked there were really bad tempered. Kids who owned their own ponies and kept them at the stables were the envy of us all!

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WalkthisWayUK · 01/10/2022 02:16

@HighlandPony yes sorry not really best worded of me. I was also jealous of the caravan! She was a nice friend, I wonder what she is doing now. Seems like an age ago.

HighlandPony · 01/10/2022 02:50

WalkthisWayUK · 01/10/2022 02:16

@HighlandPony yes sorry not really best worded of me. I was also jealous of the caravan! She was a nice friend, I wonder what she is doing now. Seems like an age ago.

I was joking!! 😂but I really do have a caravan a horse and a pony. I’ve got a huge 6 berth swift charisma we’ll be away to haven in October with and I’ve got a smelly wee sheltie who thinks he’s the hulk and a big cob x Clydesdale who thinks he’s a cross between Vitali Klitschko and Anna Wintour.

Sshhhh but I also tow my caravan with a big rusty transit if we’re away for longer coz the big estate doesn’t fit everyone and everything. Still not a traveller 🤐

Donttakeafence · 01/10/2022 06:21

Omg yes! But I loved it.

I would be dropped to the yard for 7/730 to bring the ponies in (they would all charge from the fields, and many would find their own stalls but some would need to be caught and wrangled. All ponies fed a small amount of pony nuts and groomed. Then the tack comes up from the tack room (in barrows).

it was a trekking centre so in the school holidays there would be rides at 10, 1130, 2 and 330. I was so fit (but I didn’t realise) as I would often have lead rein ponies or be walking escort running up and down the ride. Shame step counters didn’t exist then!

ponies would be fed in the afternoon, and the din as they heard the feed go into buckets. Ponies turned out and the final muck out of the day, shovelling shit and washing down stalls.

There was a points system, something like 50 points a ride and I remember filling a haynet was 1/4 point! There were more lucrative jobs though and I was good at those. The woman in charge was a real battleaxe but she had a soft spot for me (a good work ethic and I spent time talking with her aged husband).

We all used to hang out in this dilapidated caravan with holes in the floor, eating pot noodles.

Looking back it’s a nightmare from h&s and safeguarding point of view but I loved it. Was there every day as a teen. It was hard physical work, dangerous, you had to have your wits about you. And that’s before you add in things like rattling round in the back of a jeep or standing on the back of a moving tractor. Character building stuff.

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supertato32 · 01/10/2022 06:22

@Carrotsgrowintheground it was free childcare haha. I can't even imagine the protocol that would be involved now, with insurance etc.

supertato32 · 01/10/2022 06:23

@PAFMO oh I loved the 'summer pony camps' I think we stayed in a caravan in a muddy field and we were the lucky ones. So many great memories though. Wish my daughter could experience the same

supertato32 · 01/10/2022 06:27

@TooExtraImmatureCheddar I had a similar
Experience. Contacted a riding school to see if they would do a meet and greet for my one year old. She told me they did and told me to
Book a certain session online. A month later I show up, the owner moans that I'm the only booking, it's her birthday today and she's really annoyed to be there (hello, I'm a paying customer)! She then shows me to a pony tied on a fence and points inside and says that's where the tack is (whilst I had my one year old in my hands)) complete cow!

ChangePlease · 01/10/2022 06:42

Ah those were the days! We used to drive a ride on mower around the village pulling a trailer with other girls sitting in a trailer, mass pony bathing then ride them bare back to dry making reins out of the headcollar and lead rope 😊

birchtree23 · 01/10/2022 06:42

Yep eventually stopped going as my parents wanted me to join a choir on the Saturday morning instead. Loved going and still remember jamming my finger in a stable door. Bet the grumpy owner was right happy dealing with that. 😂

Pufferpuffin · 01/10/2022 06:49

Yes! Looking back it was child labour but we lived for horses. Seemed to involve endless mucking out and shovelling shit and then it lucky at the end of the day a 30 min ride.

Heatherbell1978 · 01/10/2022 06:51

Yes! We were dropped off at someone's house at 7am, driven to the stables, sent to fields in the middle of nowhere to ride back 12 horses between 4 of us. Then yep, collected at 5pm. Now I look back as a mum, my mum had childcare sorted!

MarieVanGoethem · 01/10/2022 07:53

After my mother died (very suddenly) when I was 10 my siblings & I were quite regularly dumped at a particular family friends. My wee sister & I shared a single bed - & the daughter of the family, 4 years my senior, was mostly expected to mind us (which was, tbh, mainly to keep her from trouble).

Equines were her joy & her delight though, so we spent a lot of time hanging around at one of the two local (inner London!) stables - my sister & I looking like postmodern Dickensian waifs much of the time. Sometimes we’d be given money by our father for a ride, but mostly we’d put up with doing the work & being treated like shite by spoilt brats [& their parents] & the promised free rides essentially being a mirage. At least when we worked for the man doing donkey rides (he’d’ve been paying the girl “minding” us, R, by then - I was 12 & my sister 9) he let me & my sister ride (you’d to weigh under 7 stone 12) at the end of the day; & sometimes he’d buy us an ice lolly.

R managed to get her own pony when I was 14. It’d been abandoned at the yard we’d not worked at. Pony in question was the sweetest little grey, but it makes me feel genuinely sick even now thinking about R having me “help rebreak” her. By riding - well, being led - on the roads (pavements) just sitting in her saddle while R and another “big girl” from the stables led her using her halter. I’d no riding hat, never mind a body protector - basically I agreed to ensure they didn’t put my sister on her. Thankfully nothing worse happened than R & her friend not paying enough attention so Pony Unused To Rider dislocated my right knee (something it’s prone to doing, but 😖) & battered my right foot by smooshing my right leg against a wall & dragging it along. I couldn’t shout to R & her friend because Pony would have panicked & done panicking pony things. Absolutely luck not judgement that experiment didn’t end terribly. (Adding literal insult to injury, my father wrote me a note to excuse me from PE - & a general one to say I needed to be allowed to wear trainers to school due to injury - & my PE teacher let me sit out then kept me back afterwards to lecture me about a “sore knee” not being a good enough reason to miss PE. Funnily enough, after I hoiked up my skirt to show her my right knee was double the size of the left & a wondrous array of colours she declined the offer to view my right foot. “We could check if my big toenail’s fallen off yet Miss… oh, ok then.” 🤷🏻‍♀️)

I went back to riding as an adult & loved it. Had to stop after the yard I was at lost the last of their staff with RDA experience and I became more unwell. Would so love to get back to playing with ponies though - they bring such joy.

bluetongue · 01/10/2022 08:32

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 30/09/2022 15:44

Every single riding stable I went to was run by absolutely horrible women who seemed to hate kids. Bossy, shouty, bitchy, did things like purposefully put you on the mental Shetland who bucked to see how you coped. On day one. I took my kids to riding lessons and the owner was exactly the same - where do these women come from and why are they all horrible?

What is it with all the bitchy women in the horse world? Of course plenty of lovely people too but the bitch numbers are abnormally high.

I’ve ridden at a couple of stables run by competitive riders (mostly women) and their mothers and the rows they would have between themselves in public earshot we’re terrible.

bluetongue · 01/10/2022 08:34

Oh and I forgot about the instructor who would make us tuck our t-shirts into out jodhpurs and then call us fat. I might be chubby now but I was most definitely not fat then (though I did have a terrible case of duck butt).

bluetongue · 01/10/2022 08:49

SlipperyLizard · 30/09/2022 18:28

My sister and I went to something called Horse Rangers, like guides except horsey. One week riding, one week kicking out, occasional camp.

Later turned out that one of the men running it had been convicted for molesting the kids there! So perhaps grumpy women are the lesser of two evils.

A male instructor at one my riding schools was done for child molestation but was more into boys and also coached a boy’s football team where the victims played.

dogrilla · 01/10/2022 09:17

@bluetongue OMG, the massive shouting rows that happen publicly at yards don't seem to happen anywhere else. If you spoke to anyone in a normal workplace the way many horsey women communicate to staff/customers/friends you'd be in a whole world of trouble. When I was 10 I helped at a private yard where the owner would call me fat and dim, and sit indoors drinking tea while I mucked out her 8 horses in the depths of winter (usually not even getting a ride). I didn't think to question it or tell my parents. Mind you, it didn't put me off. 36 years later, horses are still the love of my life.

OrangePumpkinLobelia · 01/10/2022 09:20

Oh yes- that reminds me. One of the male instructors who we all admired massively because he was a semi famous showjumper (famous in our area anyway) was sent to jail for raping many of his students over the years. I saw the newspaper reports when I was in my 30s.

HighlandPony · 01/10/2022 11:20

dogrilla · 01/10/2022 09:17

@bluetongue OMG, the massive shouting rows that happen publicly at yards don't seem to happen anywhere else. If you spoke to anyone in a normal workplace the way many horsey women communicate to staff/customers/friends you'd be in a whole world of trouble. When I was 10 I helped at a private yard where the owner would call me fat and dim, and sit indoors drinking tea while I mucked out her 8 horses in the depths of winter (usually not even getting a ride). I didn't think to question it or tell my parents. Mind you, it didn't put me off. 36 years later, horses are still the love of my life.

Haha try working in a scrap yard. I assure you they do. They even come to blows a lot of the time. Passionate folk do passionate things I suppose

Qisk · 01/10/2022 11:31

Some of my fondest memories were dropping down through the countryside of Northamptonshire in Autumn, looking at the red, yellow, ochre and russet leaves as we drove. We passed pheasants standing proud in fields or verges with much to say if we would stay a little while and listen. Crows sat on stone walls or fences unalarmed, just patiently waiting for us to pass by as dad drove us to the stables.

Peter ran it. He was 40, small, a mop of darky curly hair and a wise face, with crows' feet that would draw together whenever he smiled. His polished brown boots were immaculate, his jacket always sitting perfectly and his stance one of quiet enjoyment of everything around him. When we arrived it was normally misty or, later in the season, a bit foggy. The car park was on a rise overlooking the quadrangle yard of that bright north Northamptonshire stone and to one side behind some holly bushes and bay trees a steaming muck heap would send a flame-like smoky vapour into the air. Pine trees and oaks framed the house and grooms' cottages and I knew this is where I wanted to be. I wanted to live here.

As I walked down from the car, the ad hoc clink of a door bar being kicked or the hollow drum sound of a bucket being dropped onto the floor climbed into the air letting us know this was really a quiet place. Sounds were quietly accepted, nothing more.

Into the stables office right by the tack room was a lady whose name I never remember, but she will remember my name now. They had that kind of way. On the desk next to a beautifully written leather booking ledger was a big red phone, the sort that when you dialled it up from home on a similar phone that was green, the dial would slowly perform giving you enough time to think about what to say, even though then there were only seven numbers to dial.

Saffron was my first pony. It cost my parents £2.50 for me to end up on my back on a tarmac road because a local driver from the quarry drove too fast. It ripped my duffel coat, but I got back on. That was the whispered gossip of the yard that morning "Qisk's first lesson and they got back on!" Peter was kind to us and the staff. He had several years in the Househould Cavalry and first and foremost the horses and ponies came first. But us kids were never far behind.

That Christmas I had my first pony. I went onto do other equine things. I tried to follow Peter's ways and when I outgrew my pony, she went to Peter's yard. I last saw her some 12 years' later under some apple trees in a meadow with some other retired ponies. She came home. On the fence was a pheasant and it was October and mellow again.

LoveMyPiano · 01/10/2022 11:47

@Qisk So beautifully written. It was like being there 💕
I do believe the Peters of this world are few and far between (and of
course, men are generally outnumbered - a least in my experience).
Nothing I have done could be written about so poetically.

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 06/10/2022 09:27

I wish I could've had a childhood like this, unfortunately I'm really badly allergic to horses so could only admire them from afar and in books. In most of the books I read though, the owner of the stables was almost always described as a 'fearsome woman with flyaway grey hair'

gwenneh · 06/10/2022 14:43

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 06/10/2022 09:27

I wish I could've had a childhood like this, unfortunately I'm really badly allergic to horses so could only admire them from afar and in books. In most of the books I read though, the owner of the stables was almost always described as a 'fearsome woman with flyaway grey hair'

Thinking my way through the list of friends who have their own yards now...can confirm that they are ALL "fearsome women" but the grey hair seems optional these days!

DW66 · 30/10/2024 22:24

Similar, but I went with a friend that kept her pony at a dealers yard . We mucked out , swept the yard , sorted feed , for a chance to ride the ponies bought in - which were usually pretty green and spooky . Knew no fear then and happy to take the fall for the chance of a ride . Ran by an old boy in Clapham who usually turned up straight from the pub on his bike .
No health and safety then !

blackheartsgirl · 30/10/2024 23:33

Yes I remember this!!

had some great memories, I loved horses, still do and always wanted my own horse but it was never to be.

tidying and moving the shit and the hay about on the muck heap with pitchforks, brilliant in winter because it kept your feet warm.

fetching them in from the fields, grooming them, tacking them up ready for the first lessons, polishing the tack in the tack room, I can still smell the smell of saddle soap. Sweeping the corridor in the indoor school then sitting on bales of hay with my friends with a chicken and mushroom potnoodle or a cuppa soup with hunks of bread on our lunch break watching the little kids having their lessons.

my parents used to pick me up at six on a Sunday, then it was straight home, in the bath, then eating a roast dinner in front of the telly watching the chronicles of marina. Happy happy days.

the things we used to do.

Health and safety didn’t exist in my stables 😂

longleggitybeastie · 31/10/2024 10:23

Zombie thread but lovely to re-read!

Thought Qisk was quoting from a book! Beautiful.

Moreshroomsplease · 07/11/2024 12:55

Qisk · 01/10/2022 11:31

Some of my fondest memories were dropping down through the countryside of Northamptonshire in Autumn, looking at the red, yellow, ochre and russet leaves as we drove. We passed pheasants standing proud in fields or verges with much to say if we would stay a little while and listen. Crows sat on stone walls or fences unalarmed, just patiently waiting for us to pass by as dad drove us to the stables.

Peter ran it. He was 40, small, a mop of darky curly hair and a wise face, with crows' feet that would draw together whenever he smiled. His polished brown boots were immaculate, his jacket always sitting perfectly and his stance one of quiet enjoyment of everything around him. When we arrived it was normally misty or, later in the season, a bit foggy. The car park was on a rise overlooking the quadrangle yard of that bright north Northamptonshire stone and to one side behind some holly bushes and bay trees a steaming muck heap would send a flame-like smoky vapour into the air. Pine trees and oaks framed the house and grooms' cottages and I knew this is where I wanted to be. I wanted to live here.

As I walked down from the car, the ad hoc clink of a door bar being kicked or the hollow drum sound of a bucket being dropped onto the floor climbed into the air letting us know this was really a quiet place. Sounds were quietly accepted, nothing more.

Into the stables office right by the tack room was a lady whose name I never remember, but she will remember my name now. They had that kind of way. On the desk next to a beautifully written leather booking ledger was a big red phone, the sort that when you dialled it up from home on a similar phone that was green, the dial would slowly perform giving you enough time to think about what to say, even though then there were only seven numbers to dial.

Saffron was my first pony. It cost my parents £2.50 for me to end up on my back on a tarmac road because a local driver from the quarry drove too fast. It ripped my duffel coat, but I got back on. That was the whispered gossip of the yard that morning "Qisk's first lesson and they got back on!" Peter was kind to us and the staff. He had several years in the Househould Cavalry and first and foremost the horses and ponies came first. But us kids were never far behind.

That Christmas I had my first pony. I went onto do other equine things. I tried to follow Peter's ways and when I outgrew my pony, she went to Peter's yard. I last saw her some 12 years' later under some apple trees in a meadow with some other retired ponies. She came home. On the fence was a pheasant and it was October and mellow again.

@Qisk Peter sounds hot. If you’re ever considering writing some, er, romantic fan-fiction, or even a Jilly Cooper-esque romp involving Peter behind the hay bales with a riding crop, you’ve got an avid audience here! Keep us posted.