Teens and loud phone calls

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On speaker 😡 Dd insists on having loud conversations with her friend on speakerphone and I can hear them both at the other end of the house and on a different floor. She disturbs her younger sibling who is trying to sleep and these calls go on for well over an hour. I think she's been on call now for about 2 hours. I know this wasn't possible in my teenage years of itemised phone bills and the house phone being in a communal space. If I say anything I am deemed mean and it's not fair. It is totally unreasonable to want her to hold the phone to her ear so that I can't hear the other person talking as well as Dd. If she used her phone without the speaker being on she'd not need to talk so loudly either.

Does anyone else have this issue with their teenager? Do you have rules around the phone's use? The internet goes off and hour before bed but she's now having long and loud conversations instead.

I miss the old days of itemised bills and house phones but not the dread that came with my dad discovering I'd spent £6 on a phone call to my long distance boyfriend 😰

I don't think this is a "teens" issue, but just a "your dd" issue.

It is the same as anyone in the house disturbing other people with anything else - TV on too loud, music on too loud etc.
You first of all tell them it is too loud.
You remind them.
You remove whatever it is that is too loud.

Maybe look on the bright side, she's clearly comfortable with you overhearing her conversations and isn't trying to hide anything from you.

Does sound annoying though, could she use headphones so that the call is hands free but not as public?

Nope neither of mine do this, they are 15 and 13. The 15yr old chats at length with friends but never on speaker.

I find it odd that you are allowing it.

You just tell her it is out of order, tell her to have normal phone calls, and if she doesn't then remove the phone.

You could ask her to be handsfree but use earbuds but dont most people talk on speaker now?

My DD FaceTimes her friends a lot and its often loud but after 7.30 when her younger siblings go to bed she quietens down and I can’t hear her; sometimes I have to remind her if they get excited about something but if it was an ongoing issue she knows she’d have her phone taken…

On the plus side I often hear a lot of what’s going on that possibly wouldn’t have been shared with me (like being told off at school) through just walking past her room

I'll have a chat with her tomorrow. I think she just gets carried away and she only has the one friend and she goes to a different school so it is deemed mean to stop their chats. I'd just like not to hear them both talking at loud volume. She is always losing her earphones but if she tidied her room every now and again then she might find them.

I don't think anyone is suggesting she stops the chats, just that she talks at a normal volume.

Mine dont speak on speakerphone either, I would get her some headphones maybe?

Yes, my 13 year old is like this. Her and her friends are always group chatting on the phone and I’m constantly reminding her to please be quiet.

If you can hear both sides of the conversation, I'd join in, I bet that would get them to quiten down!

This. I'd keep Interrupting with an opinion or comment.