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Separation anxiety to the extreme!! Help!

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Suzywooo · 29/09/2022 18:33

So my 18th month old had always been clingy, but always been fine with her dad/sister etc and immediate family.

I’m going back to work in two weeks, I’ve not worked since she’s been born and have been looking at nursery’s. This week, she’s full of cold. And Tuesday (she was still not great and prob not the best idea) she went for her settling in session. They said she cried but settled well, and wasn’t actually bothered about seeing us when we picked her up 2 hours later.

HOWEVER, since then she will not leave my side. She won’t go near her dad, she cries when he tries to pick her up. I can’t leave the room without her running after me and screaming murder. She won’t go to her sister and if I go to the toilet upstairs she is hysterical. She cites at my feet to be picked up and will cry and cry until I pick her up. She’s not even happy to be near me she has to be on me.

I’m stressing now about going to work as she’s at nursery 2 days and with her dad the other day. She won’t go near him at the mo and I’m dreading her going to nursery.

Coulf the fact she’s ill be making this worse? She’s always had separation anxiety and been all about her mom but this is another level and I’m it sure what to do..😭😭😭

Separation anxiety to the extreme!! Help!
OP posts:
Zone2NorthLondon · 30/09/2022 11:18

Toddlers experience intense emotions and like consistency
she’s settled in her happy routine and that’s all about you at the mo
so you need to model good upbeat nursery is soooo exciting behaviour
she will have a wobble but will be ok, YOU will need to stop listening to naysayers In real life and Mumsnet about giving up work etc
start to talk about nursery, buy a new bag and water bottle, really big it up

she’s with her dad it’s not like she’s feral with wolves

returning to work is the right thing to do

Zone2NorthLondon · 30/09/2022 11:25

yes feeling poorly she’ll want her mum
do be prepared for a brief temporary spike in illnesses eg ear infections, chickenpox,viral infections when she’s in proximity to new children. However it’ll supercharge her immune system

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