More of a rant but my SIL suggested and promised for months she would have my dc for mine and dh first anniversary weekend so we could have time alone to celebrate.
We wasn’t fussed about booking anywhere, just planned drinks and dinner for the evening. Her lovely offer made us look into a weekend break away and we planned where and booked it a few weeks ago, with her reconfirmed agreement of having the dc.
We are due to go this weekend and she has backed out. She didn’t tell us, I asked her what time suits to drop dc off and her reply was “ we can’t have them now as I have a lot on “.
i haven’t replied as I’m so upset and I don’t want to cause unnecessary arguments, but it feels so cruel that she was the one who suggested it and gave us ideas of the location months ago. She was happy with the set up and made no indication she’d back out 2 days prior.
We have nobody else who could take the dc at such short notice, so we have no choice but to cancel.
DH is angry that our plans are ruined and we have lost some money from day time bookings we made for certain activities, with the assurance it would go ahead. If she hadn’t left it so last minute I would have been more understanding, but it seems to me that she has just changed her mind as teen niece posted on social media “ can’t wait for a lazy weekend in with my family “ so it doesn’t appear something serious has happened or plans have changed.
i know it’s minor in the grand scheme of things, it’s the principle of it that’s hurt me most and that our first anniversary won’t be as fun as we planned because I’d built it up in my head and felt excitement for our new plans that will never happen now. AIBU?