My sister has hated me since I was born, me being born bothered her so much she's never been able to get over it, I'm 47 now and she's 52, this is something she's admitted many times and she's made my life utterly miserable to the point I've not been allowed in her house and had to sit in the car while my mother has gone in.
Anyway, due to the BS that has been said about me, her children (my niece and nephews) have heard it all, so they hate me too (which is fine, I can't be arsed to worry about it), but what I am NOT liking is that they've extended the hatred to my son and that I cannot deal with.
They literally pick at everything he does, to what he does for a job (he's a support worker for adults with mental issues doing 15 hour days), he's also quite a loner (Aspergers) and only has a small circle of good friends and the fact he's got tattoos, all these things are often used against him. They'll go to my mum (their gran) and say 'have you seen xxxx tattoo?' Just to shit stir because they know my mum hates tattoos. They never bring these issues to me his mum, but always through a 3rd party.
I'm getting sick to death with the constant jibes.
I'm currently caring for my mother after she collapsed at home and had to go into hospital, and because my son is also spending time here at mums when he's not working they are criticising that too.
I've not said anything to them about this, all the backstabbing comments are to my 77 year old mother. She has enough stress as it is, she's been unwell for about 10 months and her husband currently in a home due to dementia.. it's utterly absurd and quite selfish on their part dragging my mum into this nonsense.
My son suffers with depression (he tried to kill himself last year) and I am aware one of my nephews has been leaving shitty comments on his Instagram pics.... so not cool...
Any advice?