Why do I hate work so much? Is this normal?

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I hate the content of the job. I genuinely believe it is a pointless bullshit job which adds no value to anything or anyone.

I spend my time doing tasks which are apparently very important and urgent and need to be done RIGHT NOW - but then nobody pays any attention to what’s been done. Sometimes it even turns out that another team has done the same thing from a slightly different perspective.

I hate all my colleagues and the passive aggressive, backstabbing culture.

The only thing I like is the pay. I honestly get nothing else from it at all.

I’ve been in this career 14 years and always disliked it but the current job is one of the worst.

Anyone else been in this situation and how did you pull yourself back from it? It is at the point now where it is really affecting my mental health.

I’m intrigued about what your job is and what tasks you do that nobody ever bothers looking at. What happens if you just don’t do the work, nobody cares or asks you where the work is?

If it's any help (a bit of solidarity) I spent the morning crying at my desk.
Luckily there were only 3 of us in, my 2 work pals and a chap on the other side of the huge office (we have hybrid working).
My two pals took me out to lunch.
I'm so bloody miserable at work but been in the industry so long and I'm the wrong side of 50 so I feel trapped.
Line manager is an arsehole who's sole role seems to be to torture me with a smile on his face.
I'm overworked, under paid and just completely overwhelmed.
If you have a chance just leave before you too become trapped, life's too short.
So, anyway, I'm feeling you op, I hope things improve for you ❤️

I know most jobs are a means to enjoying your life the rest of the time, but I do think you need to get fulfilment and a sense of achievement, even in a bullshit job.

I’m in a bullshit job which I don’t enjoy. But my previous jobs have been bullshit jobs and they were far more fulfilling! I think it’s because there was more opportunity to do the tasks that bring me satisfaction. Ideally, I’d love not to work, but I know my unhappiness in my current role is mainly due to low levels of satisfaction and high levels of frustration.

So I think you can find happiness in a job without being an “I love working/my job is a big part of my life” person.

Yeah I don't like working, it's shit. I love my colleagues but the stress of the job, the bullshit, the total ridiculousness of unachievable targets while being increasingly understaffed is too much.

What's worse is working full-time and struggling to get much enjoyment from the weekends because I'm skint and exhausted

How much autonomy do you have in your job? How many meetings do you really have to join? Would changing your pattern slightly help? I know it's not always possible but if I have an afternoon off, I find I'm more productive in the morning because I'm conscious of what needs doing that day and can't spread it out. I do think loads of us really do bullshit jobs but I also, reluctantly, think most of need something to make us get out of bed each morning. If you hate all your colleagues though, I'd look to move jobs.

I used to feel like dactyl the same way about my job. Everyone acted as if it was so urgent and important but it was literally pointless and eventually every second I was there felt like wasted time.

I'm the end I left and did a masters and retrained in a completely different field and now I love my job. But I know that's so much easier said than done when you're relying on two incomes.

Life is short though. And your mental and physical health is so precious. Work out what your exit strategy is and plan for it. What you're describing is no way to live.

OP I was you, I didn't get better at dealing with it...sod that. I left and became a contractor/freelancer (have my own business now). It's bloody great.

People definitely ask where the work is. They want it so they can send it to whichever board or senior leadership team meeting or stakeholder forum or whatever.

But once it’s sent I’m not convinced it’s actually used, considered or in some cases even read.

Interesting point - I’ve found exactly the same about working mornings and having the afternoon off! It’s not feasible now but will be next year once DC2 starts school…