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Staying with 17 yo in a hotel

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BonnesVacances · 26/09/2022 22:17

I'm trying to book a Travelodge, though Premier Inn are the same.

For me, DS(17) and his GF(17) to visit a uni open day.

2 rooms, one for me and one for DS and his GF.

Except they can't stay in a room by themselves. But they're not allowed to share a family room with me as they're older than 16 and are not children.

So from what I can see, 17 year olds fall between two stools. Too old to be a child but not old enough to be an adult.

Has anyone found a way around this? Other than ticking the box for the 2nd room to say DS is 18 and committing fraud?

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Haggisfish3 · 26/09/2022 22:18

Just tick the box.

lailamaria · 27/09/2022 16:35

it's not fraud it's a hotel room just tick the box and have done

AgentProvocateur · 27/09/2022 16:41

What a non-issue. Just tick the box.

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steppemum · 27/09/2022 16:41

that's odd.
You often have families travelling where the older teens share in a seperate room to parents.

purplecorkheart · 27/09/2022 16:43

Just tick the box.

CasaDelSoot · 27/09/2022 16:50

Just tick the box.

It's always the case you need someone over 18 in a hotel room.
Going on holiday I always have to allocate 1 adult and 1 child in each room when booking. But when we get there it's DH and I in one room and 2 teenagers in the other. No-one at the hotel cares!

kimberly489 · 27/09/2022 16:56

Committing fraud?! 🤣🤣🤣

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 27/09/2022 17:05

kimberly489 · 27/09/2022 16:56

Committing fraud?! 🤣🤣🤣

Thank goodness they no longer have 'transportation to the colonies' as a punishment for this sort of heinous crime.

MrsAvocet · 27/09/2022 17:07

16-18 is a frustrating age. They are charged as adults but treated as children for lots of things. I had this argument with Premier Inn when my then 17 year old DD wanted to book a room on her own when she was attending an audition. She wasn't allowed, as under 18, so therefore a child. But I had to pay for her breakfast as she was over 16 and therefore an adult. 🤔 Unfortunately she has always looked young fir her age so I don't think they would have let her check in on her own without ID, but if in your shoes, if one of the young people in question would pass for 18 I would just say they were and I doubt you'll be questioned.
I ended up going with my DD and on the same trip we went to the theatre. She was charged for an adult seat as over 16, but ineligible for the student discount as she was still at school and the discount was only for college and University students. It's madness really.

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BonnesVacances · 30/09/2022 07:25

DS was refused last month because he didn't have any ID to say he was 18. As far as the hotel was concerned, he would have slept on the streets that night. They wouldn't budge. So we're cautious and can't rely on hotels not enforcing that rule.

So I'm just wondering where and how 17 year olds are supposed to stay in hotels?

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BonnesVacances · 30/09/2022 07:26

CasaDelSoot · 27/09/2022 16:50

Just tick the box.

It's always the case you need someone over 18 in a hotel room.
Going on holiday I always have to allocate 1 adult and 1 child in each room when booking. But when we get there it's DH and I in one room and 2 teenagers in the other. No-one at the hotel cares!

But in my case there's only 1 adult in the party. And I can't split myself between 2 rooms.

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reluctantbrit · 30/09/2022 07:54

Are there any B&Bs in the area? Or smaller independent hotels? They may be able to be more accomodating.

I find it very frustrating and lower budget chains don't really help by not offering proper two-room-set ups with interconnecting doors. We stopped using them now which means higher costs for a short stay unfortunately.

MissedItByThisMuch · 30/09/2022 08:01

Interconnecting rooms is the way we’ve got around this with younger teens. But in your case I’d just tick the 18 box.

Not all hotels require an 18yo in each room. We’ve stayed in a lot of hotels all over the world with 2 parents and 4 teens spread over 3 rooms and this has only been an issue a minority of times.

AriettyHomily · 30/09/2022 08:02

BonnesVacances · 30/09/2022 07:25

DS was refused last month because he didn't have any ID to say he was 18. As far as the hotel was concerned, he would have slept on the streets that night. They wouldn't budge. So we're cautious and can't rely on hotels not enforcing that rule.

So I'm just wondering where and how 17 year olds are supposed to stay in hotels?

The hotel won't know who sleeps where though 🤷‍♀️

daisyjgrey · 30/09/2022 08:04

You don't pay per person in a travelodge or premier inn. Add a fictitious 4th adult, check in. If questioned, the fourth is joining later. If by any slim chance someone pays enough attention to notice they haven't turned up (unlikely), then whoops, their car broke down, couldn't make it.

SudocremOnEverything · 30/09/2022 08:06

Bloody hell. Just tick the box like everyone else would.

Zwicky · 30/09/2022 08:07

But in my case there's only 1 adult in the party. And I can't split myself between 2 rooms

Are you being charged per room or per person? Most chain hotels like that charge a room rate so 1 adult, 1 adult and one child, or 2 adults pay the same rate. They won’t call the police if they don’t see the other adult. Personally I would book as 3 adults and not worry about them being 17. Nobody will ask for their papers. Nobody will care. Ds has stayed in a couple of premier inns as a 17yo to go to open days and he is young looking. I’ve seen many angsty threads on WIWIKAU about this and the consensus seems to be find some really obscure in-family accommodation used by international students or 16-18 year olds who are on the west end stage or even staying at the house of a stranger who happens to be a member of the same Facebook group. Ticking the box is a easier and safer option than any of those.

Itslookinggood · 30/09/2022 08:08

I have this issue frequently as a lone parent.
haven’t found a way around it sadly, except to either tick thr box saying they are 18 (in your case, they nearly are) or book for a phantom 2nd adult.

that said, have never had any issueS when actually arriving at the hotel - and it would be highly unlikely that you do, give. 2x 17 year olds.

Lurleene · 30/09/2022 08:08

You can have up to 3 adults in a Travelodge room so you should be fine sharing.

Unfortunately not the same for Premier inn, we used to stay there all the time but now DS is over 16 we can't justify the two rooms.

Realityloom · 30/09/2022 08:09

BonnesVacances · 30/09/2022 07:25

DS was refused last month because he didn't have any ID to say he was 18. As far as the hotel was concerned, he would have slept on the streets that night. They wouldn't budge. So we're cautious and can't rely on hotels not enforcing that rule.

So I'm just wondering where and how 17 year olds are supposed to stay in hotels?

Just book both rooms in your name, you check in both rooms.

R0BYN · 30/09/2022 08:09

I don’t understand why you don’t just book a family room for three adults ( if you are counting then as adults ).

Or book for one adults and two children ( if you think they are children ).

What you can’t do is have children in a room on their own. So if you want them to have a room on their own you have to say that one of them is 18.

And no they won’t ask for ID when you check in. You don’t even need to have them at check in. You go to the desk and check in for both rooms, get the room key etc. The kids can come up to the rooms later .

outtheshowernow · 30/09/2022 08:21

Omg just say they are 18 for gods sake. You won't be locked up

Clymene · 30/09/2022 08:22

BonnesVacances · 30/09/2022 07:25

DS was refused last month because he didn't have any ID to say he was 18. As far as the hotel was concerned, he would have slept on the streets that night. They wouldn't budge. So we're cautious and can't rely on hotels not enforcing that rule.

So I'm just wondering where and how 17 year olds are supposed to stay in hotels?

But you're clearly an adult. It's completely different when children are on their own.

If you check in and get the room keys, they won't care.

SpinningFloppa · 30/09/2022 08:27

It says you can book a premier inn for a 16-17 year old if an adult is also staying in the hotel...

emmathedilemma · 30/09/2022 08:35

I don’t understand why you don’t just book a family room for three adults ( if you are counting then as adults ).
Cos sharing a room with your 17yr old son and his GF wouldn't be a bit weird??
Premier Inn is the same price regardless of who stays so I'd just book 2 rooms for an adult and a child each then you have one room and stick them in the other.