Who do you talk to?

[Gilead]

Two week pathway. Nodule on lung. Discovered accidentally, but obviously fortuitously. Almost certainly a definite. Don’t want to bother adult children. Mentioned to a friend today in passing but not picked up.
I’m agitated. I’m in my early sixties, not young, not old. Peed off.

Gilead, I would tell the children. You need support and you’re not ‘bothering’, the family gets together for all occasions.
Posting here was also a good idea, I am listening, and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
Are you booked for a biopsy?

Got an appointment in ten days. I was in with sepsis in my stoma anyway. They found this on a CT scan.

I moved 300 miles away from family to escape DA a few years ago. One dd is here but she’s got her own demons. I don’t want to bang on at her.

I understand.
Look for a support group aimed at your diagnosis, once you know for sure. I would try and get counselling, the GP can help you with that.
Did they re-site the stoma?

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. They're obviously not specialists but don't forget you can always talk to Samaritans at any time (or email) - they're not just for people feeling suicidal, they're for anyone struggling.

Thank you, I feel a bit silly, always been a bit of a stoic, now a bit lost and lonely and would kill for someone to make a coffee!

How was today? Did you manage to get out at all?

Hi OP, we’re here, afraid I can only make you a virtual coffee ☕️.

Macmillan have a number of options for support, as well as a forum you can join.

www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help

Hi, thank you so much for getting back.
I’m calmer today. Dd twigged and came and sat on my bed and we chatted. She pointed out lots of possibilities, but we are both aware this is pretty definitely lung cancer. So we will deal with it. A friend is three years into pancreatic cancer with lung secondaries and is doing great. We will have to hope treatment is swift and effective.
you have no idea how grateful I am that people have replied. Thank you!

So glad you've told your daughter!

Well done for telling your daughter OP and good luck x

When you share your burden, the load becomes lighter. We all need a bit of support from time to time. Think nothing of it, I’m glad you opened up. Keep us posted, we’re here if you need us.

I'm so glad you told your DD, that is what family are for. I'd be sad if my parents didn't talk to me about their realities.

I hope the treatment goes well