Over the last year or so, he has been worrying me. For want of a better word, he wonders around aimlessly while we are getting ready to go out and it’s making us late.
He had to take the kids out this morning to an activity. To leave at 7.45 for a 9 am start. We were all up. Him a little bit later than I would like but he literally arses around getting dressed, making breakfast and then two cups of coffee, one to go. Then when everyone is ready, he needs the toilet. So that means 10 minutes while he is in the bathroom. Then running late. Kids in the car anxious to go, he then can’t find his bank card, have I got it? Queue big conversation about when he had it last which was in the car last night. He’s borrowed mine, then announces he has to go for fuel which he was supposed to do last night to save time this morning. I finally think they are on their way but he comes back from the petrol station (just along the road) as he’s forgotten his coffee and then goes to the toilet again. By this time it’s 8.20 and the kids know they are going to be late. When the kids are worried about being late and we all comment, he just gets a bit irate and for everyone to back off.
Thats just one example. Other times, I shout is everyone ready. Yes, is the response, just waiting on you so I get my jacket or what ever, ready to leave on time and there is DH wandering around saying I’m just going to do something or I need something for whatever our trip out is. It’s driving me mad. I am now planning on telling him to be ready about 30 minutes earlier than we should. He is leaving for work at the very last minute and then during the day I get a pissed off text or a call to say he’s just made it or is late because of the traffic. We live in a notoriously busy area (Queensferry Crossing if anyone is in Scotland) and knows full well how early he must leave. It’s a repeat cycle.
We have been together 22 years this has just been happening in the last year or so. I can’t stand being late or this aimless wandering around making everyone late.