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I hate talking
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UselessNessie · 22/09/2022 22:50

Not sure when it started but I just hate talking. I have constant mental chatter in my head and so engaging with other people is just exhausting. I'm also very shy and have nothing interesting to say. But also I find that what people talk about is so pointless to me and not particularly interesting. I was teased at school for being so quiet.

I'm just nuts aren't I. 😕

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Flatmountains · 22/09/2022 22:52

No. We're all different and the world is better for it. You'd hate me. I love talking to random strangers. People I know, not so much.

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TheLostNights · 22/09/2022 22:52

I'm similar. Hate small talk and never know what to say to people.
Nothing weird about it, we are all different x

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Luredbyapomegranate · 22/09/2022 22:53

No.

But you might need to hang around with more interesting people..

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UnagiForLife · 22/09/2022 22:54

You’re not nuts I feel like this a lot of the time too. If you’re like me I am sure you have lots of interesting things to say but being shy or reserved makes it hard to say them unless you really know and trust the person you’re talking to. I can’t stand superficial small talk, it’s so dull, I’d rather not talk at all to be honest. But then I feel really unfriendly!

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CuteCillian · 22/09/2022 22:59

If you met me I seem quite chatty but, in actuality, I find chatting really draining and, like you, find most of what people say is dull. Weird thing is, I love observing humans and watching them interact with each other, I just don't want to get involved.

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Ineedwinenow · 22/09/2022 23:00

My husband is the same, we have a large ish group of friends and when we all get together we all chatter away to each other but my husband just sits there listening feeling totally out of his comfort zone, I regularly tell him not to come along but he does it to support me, it used to really upset me and make him look rude to my friends but it is who I married and apart from being introverted he’s a lovely and I’m lucky he’s my husband, all of the groups husbands have a WhatsApp group and message each other regularly and meet up without us women where as that’s my husband’s worst nightmare.

Don’t worry about not enjoying the chatter it’s who you are and don’t ever feel pressure to put yourself in situations your not comfortable with

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pinkyredrose · 22/09/2022 23:02

I feel like that too

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Exhaustedpenguin · 22/09/2022 23:37

I feel like this too. I worry that people might think I'm being rude when actually I'd just prefer to listen. Sometimes when I'm out with a group I try to work out what percentage of the conversation each person has used, because I know that my percentage will always be the lowest.

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PissedOffNeighbour22 · 22/09/2022 23:57

I feel exactly the same, OP. It's exhausting. I've always wondered if the constant mental chatter is normal or not.

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UselessNessie · 23/09/2022 08:54

Thank you so much. I thought I was the only one. We should all get together and not talk to each other😄

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Everylittlethingsgonnabealright · 23/09/2022 08:55

You’re not nuts at all! I used to be very like this and am still to an extent. If you’re unhappy with not feeling like you can share or be listened to by anyone therapy can help, but if you’re happy as you are, all power to you.

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pinkyredrose · 23/09/2022 10:28

UselessNessie · 23/09/2022 08:54

Thank you so much. I thought I was the only one. We should all get together and not talk to each other😄

I'm in! :-D. Even when I was a kid talking seemed like too much hard work. I'm better at at now but it's an act.

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Ccoffee · 23/09/2022 12:30

I like talking to my close friends, who I love and find interesting. Very little interest in talking to anyone else, unless there is something in particular about them that makes me think we might grow to be friends.

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CuteCillian · 22/09/2022 22:59

If you met me I seem quite chatty but, in actuality, I find chatting really draining and, like you, find most of what people say is dull. Weird thing is, I love observing humans and watching them interact with each other, I just don't want to get involved.

That’s me too. I don’t enjoy chatting, I can do it with effort if I have to but I’m then exhausted for a while and need solitude and quiet.

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UselessNessie · 23/09/2022 14:17

I've a couple of work colleagues and we meet up now and then. I'm ok for 1/2 hour but after that I just zone out and find myself staring into space. They are both lovely people but when they start talking politics I just want to run.

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sleepymum50 · 23/09/2022 14:36

I’m similar, I’d rather stay in than go literally anywhere. If I see people I know when I’m out, my first instinct is to hide. These are people I like.

I also hate small talk and have a few friends who when we get together (infrequently), we talk about all the deep stuff, and I love that. However I can do small talk fine, but I find even my own small talk bores me. I also do that thing at a party when I start off fine but after an hour I’m all talked out and want to leave.

I used to drink socially and then I could talk crap all evening. I’m not shy but I am reserved.

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Scottishwidow193 · 23/09/2022 16:38

I'm the same, especially as I get older. I just can't be bothered with it. It's not that I'm shy, I just really can't be bothered!

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UnagiForLife · 23/09/2022 18:09

sleepymum50 · 23/09/2022 14:36

I’m similar, I’d rather stay in than go literally anywhere. If I see people I know when I’m out, my first instinct is to hide. These are people I like.

I also hate small talk and have a few friends who when we get together (infrequently), we talk about all the deep stuff, and I love that. However I can do small talk fine, but I find even my own small talk bores me. I also do that thing at a party when I start off fine but after an hour I’m all talked out and want to leave.

I used to drink socially and then I could talk crap all evening. I’m not shy but I am reserved.

This is me too! Really relate to this.

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shadypines · 23/09/2022 19:11

Well you made some interesting posts so I don't believe you have nothing interesting to say, more like you just don't feel inclined to say it.
There's a saying that ' an empty vessel makes the most noise' and it's often true.
Also, listening is a fine art, more people should shut up and practice it.

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Wauden · 23/09/2022 21:10

I know what you mean. Maybe you find people to converse with whom you find more interesting.
Mind you, all the small talk is necessary to oil the social wheels sometimes, just not too much of it!

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