I don't really know where to begin with this but I'll try and find a beginning.
My mum is almost 80, living in spain.
She has major issues with her mobility. She's had several operations over the past few years that have not been successful.
Fortunately I don't work so have been able to be here through all her operations and recuperations, often leaving my children and husband in U.K. if they have had school/ university.
I have an older brother who has not seen our mother in 12 years. No money concerns, he just cannot be bothered with her. He will ring her once a week if he's not too busy.
So essentially we have an ageing mother for whom I constantly put my life on pause for. Because i do this he does nothing.
Don't know if I can or want to do this anymore.
I've tried to talk to him about it but her does not want to know.
I guess I'm not being clear at all. But I'm here now in Spain dealing with her shit and , again, it's just becoming overwhelming.
I can share with DH but his mum is the same age and has issues. She lives a couple of hours from us and his brother is in Australia, so again his mothers care falls upon us.
I feel like just sitting down and crying at the injustice of it all.
Why must we bare this weight when our brothers do as they please??
I am aware I'm rambling. I'm currently sitting on my mums veranda on a warm balmy night after much vodka, well earned after several medical consults.
Just trying not to feel too sorry for myself 😞