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Has anyone ever had a job offer rescinded after trying to negotiate more money?

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Dirtybirdy · 21/09/2022 20:13

Have been offered an incredible job today with a big, blue chip company along with a decent salary and a very generous benefits package.

Have accepted in principle, but asked the internal recruitment person to find out if there's any flex on salary.

I'm actually pretty happy with what they've offered and would accept based on that, but I feel like there's an expectation in a senior role for a company this size, for some negotiation to take place.

It didn't sound like this was met negatively and they're going to let me know tomorrow, but im now furiously overthinking and wondering if I've marked my card before I've even received a contract?

What do you think? Is there a chance they'll bin me off?

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Hopeandlove · 21/09/2022 20:15

No I asked and got £5 K pay rise and a £10 K moving expenses and a free flat for a year - men ask all the time - do it and know your worth

tickticksnooze · 21/09/2022 20:17

I think yours is a fairly normal response. When else would you negotiate on salary?

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Dirtybirdy · 21/09/2022 20:17

I also didn't mean this question to be tone deaf in any way. I appreciate that I'm lucky to have received a good offer, and am just as worried about the cost of living as everyone is, so I hope I've not offended anyone

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Cheeselog · 21/09/2022 20:18

No, never. The worst I’ve had is sorry, this is the highest we can go.

SummerHouse · 21/09/2022 20:18

No way. You are in. Hold your nerve my friend. Congratulations!

SummerHouse · 21/09/2022 20:20

To be honest this probably impresses them more than if you snap thier hand off thanking them for their generosity.

Come on OP - you are worth it!

Lunabun · 21/09/2022 20:20

Never heard of it happening personally, and I'd think very badly of a company that did anything like that!

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Dirtybirdy · 21/09/2022 20:23

Ah, this is making me feel a bit better! I don't want to be grabby, but I also feel they could go a bit higher - have researched similar positions and the average salary is definitely a bit higher, but I don't have a benchmark on the average benefits package.

Anyway, I guess I'll find out tomorrow! 🤞

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Fundays12 · 21/09/2022 20:25

No but I have rescinded one. A candidate got the initial increase they wanted straight after the job offer and before accepting then demanded thousands more days before they started. The behaviour demonstrated was not in keeping with the company ethos so the offer was rescinded

Juolo · 21/09/2022 20:25

Worst case is probably they say no they won't move on it. I've never heard of anyone getting their offer pulled for asking, only no movement.
In the incredibly unlikely situation of if they did pull it would probably be a lucky escape. Imagine trying to bring up things to change, do different, problems etc if that was their reaction to something as simple as a wage negotiation request.

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Dirtybirdy · 21/09/2022 20:27

Fundays12 · 21/09/2022 20:25

No but I have rescinded one. A candidate got the initial increase they wanted straight after the job offer and before accepting then demanded thousands more days before they started. The behaviour demonstrated was not in keeping with the company ethos so the offer was rescinded

So you mean they accepted the original offer, then tried to negotiate further down the line?

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Dorisbonson · 21/09/2022 20:38

Be up front about expectations and don't change down the line. You can haggle about anything. If you are in a senior role then the company have decided they need you so you can ask for what you want. My last place (100,000+ employees) paid people in the same role between £140k and £260k - all down to haggling on the way in. Expectations around performance were different but frankly didn't matter in the end.

beonmywaythen · 21/09/2022 20:40

I have seen someone else's offer rescinded after they signed the contract, but not at this stage.

Gemstar2 · 21/09/2022 20:44

I work in the public sector, where every single job always says you will start at the bottom of the pay grade, so naively I’ve never asked. My manager told me this week they negotiated a higher starting salary. Moral of the story? ALWAYS ask!

Sounds like you asked in a polite and reasonable way, as long as you remain polite and reasonable if they say no, surely there’d be no reason to retract the offer…and if they do, prob not someone you want to work for, as surely this is a very normal and expected response to a job offer.

Good luck, hope they come back with a higher offer or, failing that, are kind about saying no!

Chdjdn · 21/09/2022 20:47

No, I always think what would a man do in this scenario - ask for more money. I work out what I’m happy with then ask for a bit more; if they say yes then great and if they meet me in the middle then that’s what I was happy with in the first place

QuentininQuarantino · 21/09/2022 20:52

it happened to a guy I knew with a company in Switzerland. Even worse because he was verbally offered a salary at interview which was higher than on the written acceptance letter, so he just queried whether it would be what they’d said at interview and they rescinded on account of his “values not being a good fit!”

I think that was extremely weird though and have never heard of it happening before or since.

Carmakomelian · 21/09/2022 21:01

Nope, in fact in my current job my manager told me afterwards (once I'd started) how pleased she was that I'd negotiated - she said she was willing me to as she knew I'd get more and women too often settle for first offer (but it's company policy to try to offer less so she couldn't offer more unless I asked)

MargaretThursday · 21/09/2022 21:08

My uncle got a job he had applied "for experience" because he didn't think he was quite ready for, when the person they offered it to made too many conditions. I don't think pay was the deciding point though.

IconicKitty · 21/09/2022 21:09

Not personally, but I know someone who did have this happen. It's rare though and lots of candidates do ask this as this stage.

WhatsitWiggle · 21/09/2022 21:12

No but I did rescind one. The candidate was aware of the ceiling salary prior to interview (I had asked the agency to confirm candidate was happy any offer couldn't go higher as they were well qualified), they were offered that salary on the basis of their experience. Candidate proceeded to ask for a further £5k because they had experience similar to mine and I'd apparently shared my salary during the interview. I'd done no such thing and the salary they were asking for was actually higher than my own!

I rescinded the offer on the basis the candidate was lying and I didn't wish to employ someone who couldn't be trusted.

If a candidate can explain why they are worth more, and I'm not already top of my budget, I'll always try to give more. I'd never think badly of someone for negotiating, but I do not take kindly to being lied to.

wannabeamummysobad · 21/09/2022 21:30

I've had an offer rescinded (major FMCG) after asking for a marginal increase. No reason was given. I was annoyed at first but by the time I returned from my ski holiday I'd gotten an offer for far more money in a more convenient location. Hold your nerve. Their reaction will tell you more about if you really want to work there.

TiaraBoo · 21/09/2022 21:32

No definitely negotiate!
Also check if you’ll be eligible for a full pay rise next year, eg my company has a cut off of 1st October for new starters eligible for end of year and payrise in April. You get it halved I think. And bonus is pro-rated.

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 21/09/2022 21:43

Agree with pp - you won't know unless you ask and you'd have been regretting it if you hadn't. My last two roles I've received an increased on the initial offered salary (contract role so day rate and FTC so annual salary). Cost of living fears are real!

MarmiteCoriander · 21/09/2022 21:52

I've worked on both side of this scenario- as a hiring manager and an employee.

If you don't ask, you don't get. I've never seen it as a negative, other than personally feeling a bit 'err' for asking. I know I shouldn't, I'm worth it and have years of experience, but still- I hate bartering and the likes of it.

Luredbyapomegranate · 21/09/2022 21:53

No.

Always ask for more, you often get it, and if you don’t you’ve started the conversation for next time.