Talk some sense into me. Small work social event

[chasegirl]

I know the answer to this is to woman up and just ask but I need a kick up the backside to do so (and maybe a bit of reassurance).

Some ladies from work are going for a bottomless brunch on Saturday, I found out today.

Thing was, we'd talked a couple of months ago about it and agreed a date. I'd sorted childcare too. Didn't hear anything else but lots of people on leave the past few weeks so thought it'd just been forgotten or people pulled out and so no one was bothered.

At lunch today in the staff room a few ladies were talking about what they were going to wear etc on Saturday and telling the few men there where they were going. I obviously realised I'd not been thought about and didn't feel I could say anything at the time without getting upset (probably cos I was surprised/felt excluded, that cold feeling in the chest etc).

I havent felt up to saying anything today. Hope a but of a cry and nights sleep will help.

So, do I say something? If so, what?

Are you sure that you are univited because you say the date was arranged a couple of months ago? They may just assume that you are going.

I wouldn't think they would be talking-in front of you-about an event that they had dropped you from. That would be really not on.

Tomorrow, just say that you are wondering what to wear on Saturday.

They would have needed to book a table, sort travel etc

Saturday is the date previously agreed or a different date?

It's the date we agreed a while ago

There is a possibility that you may have got hold of the wrong end of the stick, so don't hang them yet!

Why do you think they would drop you at this stage and then be so crass as to talk about it in front of you? Has anything happened in between setting the date and today?

Sounds to me like you are already included in the plans, they spoke about it months ago, you were involved in the conversation agreeing the date so someone has booked table etc and included you in the numbers.
Often due to schedules etc, meet ups can be booked and organised months in advance (sometimes not spoken about or are forgotten about until closer to the actual time) and if you haven't actively said you aren't going I would be confident that you are included in the plans.

Was the initial discussions done verbally or via WhatsApp?

Date agreed face to face. The ladies going do all sit together I'm at the other end of the room.

I do think they might have just forgotten me. Pretty sure they would need definite numbers to book a table.

Just saw "Are we still on for Sat?"