For context dp has a long standing issue with getting involved in any difficult parenting - so much so that I’d said to him if he won’t get involved then I will deal with things my way. So I have. It is the one big issue in our relationship as he actively avoids it.
dd is 15. Usually goes to school absolutely fine , last night had stomach ache and this morning really didn’t feel well (she suffers with period pains). We were having a conversation and dp was in the same room and I said to dd it was up to her what she did about school - only she knows how bad she feels and if she felt she couldn’t manage the walk there and back plus the day then it was fine to have a day off. I did then say if she thought perhaps it was just the walk that dp could drop her off on his way into the office - he said ‘no actually I can’t ! It’s out of my way by 10 mins!’ so I said to dd ok fine well you decide how you feel just let me know.
dp heard all of this and didn’t disagree at the time or say anything except no to a lift !
15 mins later he storms into the conservatory saying dd hasn’t left for school and is actually in regular clothes and said she isn’t going and it’s my fault for being too lenient when she should have been told there was no choice and to go to school. I explained that he doesn’t deal with parenting issues so im unsure why he’s getting involved now plus he was in the room when I was talking to her so he could have had some input then if he had wanted to - but the main point was that I feel dd can make her own choice about her body and how she feels and if she was ok to go or not. She is responsible and sensible and I don’t think going forward will now abuse this privilege.
He’s now stormed out to work and I’m just left feeling very irritated as I think I had the correct approach ??