I’ve known my friend about 7 years but we’ve grown close recently. I’ve always thought her husband was a dick - but run-of-the-mill useless idiot.
recently I’ve learned he’s coercive, verbally abusive, financially abusive, mentally abusive etc.
she has 6 siblings she’s no longer in contact with, or her parents - or many friends. He has a few friends she’s allowed to see.
I’ve suffered DV myself and that’s how we met, because I moved a few doors down - so it’s not a closed subject as it were - and when we’ve talked about it she’s told me that her family/GP/HV have all told her to contact WA.
yesterday it felt like a “warning” when she told me the last friend who raised the possibility with her that her husband may be less than perfect - she cut off completely. Friend visited, she went upstairs and husband “dealt” with friend.
I’ve asked her if she thinks it’s “her” people dislike - silent implication being that maybe it’s him… she said “I don’t know”.
I honestly don’t know what to do. To stay silent feels like I’m condoning his behaviour- at the same time she needs friends.
any sensible advice? Sorry, I won’t be able to reply until lunchtime as we’re off out soon and I’ll be biting my tongue the whole way.