What would your dream wedding be?

[SybilofCumae]

I've been married for 28 years. Had a very lovely traditional country church wedding, but still like to dream about what I'd do now if I were to get married again and could do whatever I wanted.

I think I'd get married in Rome in May at Dusk, mass in Santa Maria Trastevere. Just a small intimate party of friends. After we'd go for chamagne in a roof top bar overlooking the rooves of Rome, then get taxis out to the via Appia for a long dinner in a courtyard.
I'd wear a lace shift with long sleevs and have a crown of fresh flowers.

Does anyone else plan imaginary weddings?

(BTW in this game I am still always marrying my DH again, just 27yers later!)

Just having to fill out some legal forms would be my perfect one.
Sorry I'm not very romantic, hate people looking at me, hate dressing up 'smart' and hate social occasions.
If there's a marriage version of Scrooge then I'm it 😂

Handful of my favourite people, sunset on a Mexican beach. That would be the dream. Nothing fancy just a beautiful sunset and by the sea. A lightweight flowing dress so I didn’t boil to death and barefeet! My dad to give me away. Perfect.

I’d just like to do the same wedding again. With all the same people.

Registry office paper sign during the week, booze up BBQ party in the meadow at the weekend.

No formal clothing or photographers.

Legally marrying in a registry office and having a big fuck off party, in a field if the weather was kind, a few weeks later. I wouldn't do the whole giant wedding shebang that we did before (still happily married after 20 years but was it worth the ££££ no!).

A very old , small church in the middle of nowhere , at 6pm in the depths of winter lit by just candlelight . I'd be dressed in a deep green velvet dress 3/4 length . Only a very small group of people would attend maybe 25 or so .
Afterwards we'd go to an equally old pub for a meal .

Your dream wedding sounds lovely - we've been fortunate to attend a few weddings abroad and they are beautiful.

We had a small low key budget wedding (10 years ago!)- I hand made all the flowers from paper - for the tables and bouquets to cut down on cost, I was very young and had no confidence/ painfully shy to wear any extravagant (nor the money!) I sometimes regret not wearing a big poofy dress as I'll have no other occasion in my life to wear one.

I'm now older, wiser and feel a lot more happy in my skin (after years of therapy). I'd absolutely love to have a disney wedding at night by the cinderella castle in florida - mainly for the kids (and to have a day prancing about in a big frock!) Complete with fireworks and a big bouquet of wild flowers, oh and a cathedral length veil. Oh and id dance all night (another regret of mine is not dancing on my wedding night...unfortunately i missed majority of it due to a panic attack!)

I don't think we'll ever be able to afford to take the children to disney nevermind renew our vows but it's a nice thought.

Venice in winter, I’d arrive at the church in a gondola wearing a long red velvet cloak. Perhaps only the two of us, perhaps a very small handful of close friends and our daughters. On to cocktails in a beautiful Venetian hotel afterwards.

i like your Rome one. We’ve been married 24 years. First one was meh I made the mistake of telling my mother that time.😁

Church followed by a big party - a bbq or hog roast plus diy buffet and local bands. Can then invite lots of people rather than counting heads and worrying about seating arrangements

Country house hotel, a quiet Tuesday morning in spring, Just me and dp, a couple of friends, ds and dsis.

Followed by a quick glass of champagne, a table for 8 and then a weekend somewhere rural - Brecons maybe.

I hate fuss. 😊

I sometimes think about this with my new partner. I have a vision of a small church wedding. I'm wearing a tight, cream silk dress - stylish yet understated. After church we hire out our local Italian restaurant with just 20 friends. After food we have dancing 💃 and more drinks 🍸until 2am. then I take my new DH home with me and we go to sleep and stay in bed until midday the following day. I'm not taking this relationship seriously at all 😂

Mint that's very similar to my actual wedding 35+ years ago ... very small ceremony, three witnesses, two more joined us for lunch in a lovely country house hotel and then off to the Brecon Beacons for a couple of nights, no fuss, no special outfits, no presents, no guest lists, modest cost ... no one seemed to mind or care if they weren't invited (or at least never said anything to us ).

Oooooh I love the tiny church 6pm in winter one. I'd love that. And a cosy pub after!

Also Venice in winter would be gorgeous!! Just the 2 of us for that one I think. Almost an ethereal, melancholy atmosphetre for that. Can something be so romantic it's melancholic?

@MintJulia it's funny that you say you hate fuss but a hotel, some friends followed by champagne and a meal translates as total fuss to me. Everything I'd hate for getting married 🙂
It's interesting to see how different people are over what is considered 'fussy' or not.

Church followed by a big party - a bbq or hog roast plus diy buffet and local bands. Can then invite lots of people rather than counting heads and worrying about seating arrangements

That is pretty much what we did first time around. Guests brought food too. No seating plan. Massive party. People turning up who we had missed off the guest list and it wasn’t a problem.

Exactly the one I had. Drunk, with no one else present but us and two random witnesses. Free of my enormous family treating it as a family reunion and from his all refusing to come if other members of his family are there.

I'd also love a Greek church. Tiny and white but orthodox inside.
Obviously you can't actually do this unless orthodox)

But then a meal in a relaxed taverna, right by the sea with tables pushed back for traditional dancing afterwards.
I'd wear flowing white linen for this one, but still have a flower crown 😁

I wanted to do a renewal, drunk, in Vegas by the best Elvis in town

(DH thought it too frivolous and not befitting, so we didn't)

I'd also love a Greek church. Tiny and white but orthodox inside.
Obviously you can't actually do this unless orthodox)

You could try Cyprus. If I remember correctly, at least one of the Orthodox churches is shared with the local Anglican church.

Hmm, well I'm divorced and hated my first wedding (planned by my mother) so feel cheated - especially as I'm not terminally single....

However, I have two wedding fantasies (groom a secret as he doesn't know )

One in September as this is my favourite month. The dress will be boho and flowing and I will have miraculously lost several stone so I can waft beautifully (also grown by 7 inches 😂). The venue will be a cliff top hotel in Cornwall and the colour scheme reminiscent of the Cornish coast so all sage green and ducky blues and pinks. We'd marry in the hotel and then gather around one or their long tables for one of their amazing meals. In the evening it's outside around a camp fire with hot chocolate and snacks.

The other one would be at a castle, or another hotel in Cornwall that was once a priory I think. Anyway it would be near Christmas and the venue would be lit by candles (it has a chapel) and then dinner and celebrations. The colour scheme would be burgundy and ivory.

I may have spent too long thinking about this 🤣🤣🤣

Beach wedding- in a small pretty italian town. Just me and DP- nobody else.

Looking out over Lake Como at sunset from a hillside villa with a small group of friends, then heading down to the lakeside for a delicious meal and dancing under the stars! I think I'll do this as a vow renewal at some point

@needmorelego I mean no hen night, no bridesmaids, no presents, no speeches, no relatives I can barely name. All that fussing over hair & makeup, mother-of-the-bride and seating plans makes me feel sick.

I couldn't get away with fewer than my sis and my ds. With DP, that makes four of us. His brother and best mate. Six. Hard to make it smaller without upsetting one of us.

Except by not getting married .... 🙂

If I could I’d have my wedding over again. I got married abroad, in an old stone farmhouse with a handful of family and friends. Perfect