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Was I being too sensitive?

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HansZimmerframe · 19/09/2022 21:12

Yesterday DH, the children and I we were in the playground. I had said to him earlier and admitted that I’d not been there the entire summer - he has taken the kids a couple times, but generally we've been busy doing other things like going to the beach etc.

My daughter was in the queue for the zip line. Previously she has always gone on it when my son was with her playing on it also, and helping her, or when she was with one of us because we had to help her jump onto the seat as she wasn’t tall enough / strong enough to pull it back up after going on it.

This time she was queuing for it alone because my son was off playing elsewhere. A child handed it to her and she hopped up and went down the zip line. I started waking towards the end bit so I could help her pull if back up and my husband said "she’s fine, she’s fine". So I said well I was just going to help her pull it back up. He’s like “she can do it herself. You’re so out of touch”

I got annoyed and told him he didn’t have to say it like that because it seemed like he was specifically putting me down by saying I was “out of touch”. Like I was a bad absent parent who didn’t care. He said well you are out of touch. And again I said it’s quite a blunt / rude / negative way of saying that and that he could have just said “it’s ok she can do it herself now” Then he started telling me that I’m too sensitive and I blow things out of proportion and make them into a big deal, and why do I always have to make a big deal out of stuff.

Am I right in assuming this was another one of his negative jabs / put downs to me, or was I actually being too sensitive?

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Chdjdn · 19/09/2022 21:33

Is there a backstory of him making lots of digs? If he’s normally lovely then I’d say perhaps you took it too sensitively although even if so then that doenst invalidate how you feel. However I suspect this is the latest in many things that make you feel rubbish

BattenburgDonkey · 19/09/2022 21:37

I think you were being too sensitive. Probably both being OTT over nothing though really.

HansZimmerframe · 19/09/2022 21:41

Chdjdn · 19/09/2022 21:33

Is there a backstory of him making lots of digs? If he’s normally lovely then I’d say perhaps you took it too sensitively although even if so then that doenst invalidate how you feel. However I suspect this is the latest in many things that make you feel rubbish

There is. He does it quite often sadly. Digs that is. Or just putting me down in general. But I don't usually call him out on it as bluntly like I did

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KnickerlessParsons · 19/09/2022 21:58

Don't make a mountain out of a molehill. He could have said it better, but if you haven't taken the kids to the park for a while, he's probably right in that you don't realise how much more they can do.

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