Damaging document recovery

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I recently had a very serious problem. I sent the paperwork to my dad as I needed his help and support. It was very sensitive stuff and I was really upset.

he passed away and now my sibling is in possession of my paperwork- I have asked for it back to no avail and it has been discussed and I am extremely upset. I’m being judged on something that was totally untrue.

Is there any way to get it back - where do I stand ? I sent it to my dd it wasn’t meant to be seen by anyone else

dd-dad

I have no advice, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that this has happened to you. Experiencing such injustice is truly awful. I have been through something similar and the sense of helplessness is soul destroying. I suppose you could post on Legal and see if anyone has any suggestions.

Thanks. I’m just so devastated. It was bad enough the initial issue , then trying to clear my name , then losing my dad and now having to explain myself and justify things and explain that it’s not the truth when this has just been passed around it seems . I want it returned or shredded and I didn’t want other family members knowing

Is there anyone in the family you can talk to with your side of this. I am guessing you don't get on with the sibling who is spreading all this around?

It’s one of those things where once it’s been said and people know it’s completely humiliating and I can tell everyone is now thinking ‘well is it true’

All I can see is 2 choices

1. go out of my way to prove my innocence to my own family

2. say to them - it’s not true , you all know me. It was a malicious allegation so if you believe me you believe me if you don’t then that’s your choice