Do your kids wind you up?

[Isitmeanttobethishard]

Deliberately, I mean.

DS does things he knows will make me angry/get a rise out of me, as he would his sibling. Same to DH. Pulling on my bag when I’m walking, carrying on after I’ve asked him to stop until I snap. Putting his cup in my face at dinner time. Throwing clean laundry at me when I’ve asked him to put it away, then laughing.

He’s nearly 7.

Oh my goodness, all the time. Dd wore shoes with laces to school and now telling me that I said don't because she will be trying them all day she insisted and I said do whatever you want then. She came home saying she never shoild have wore them and it's my fault that the laces keep coming undone. Don't even get me started about the other ones.

I think it's part of growing up. I have so many disagreements with them and it honestly drains me out emotionally. Dh on the other hand chooses to keep quiet and says nothing at all so I end up being the bad guy almost always.

Yep, my teen still does it. There’s times - probably hormonal - when I could cry.

Sounds like your son is attention seeking?

I wouldn’t expect that from a 7 year old tbh.

My dc wouldn't have done any of that at that age sorry OP. I was quite strict though.

Now they take the piss out of me and we have a lot of banter but again it wouldn't be like how you described. It's funny, not defiant.

@Doingprettywellthanks that would be my first instinct on paper too. He gets plenty of attention, and sometimes does it when we’re having a nice time, eg at dinner time everyone was happy, then the cup in my face started.

@CatchersAndDreams I try to be really strict but to be honest it sometimes makes things worse. Can I ask what you did? Sometimes I think my DS is trying to be funny, or at least try and make himself laugh when he does these things. Other times I think it’s when he’s bored, or something’s not going his way.

@KangarooKenny Oh no still in their teen years! I could cry too as I just find it so frustrating and such a strange behaviour to reprimand. There was no TV after bathtime thanks to the clean laundry incident (it was actually his own pants!), and he still had to pick them all up and put it away.

I probably would have shouted OP. UnMN like but yes I did shout at times when my dc were younger and I don't think either of them would have dared to throw something at me.

My ds was a 'Taz' child. We survived his childhood by being outside as much as possible and early bedtimes as they were worn out.

Ds5 has taken to grabbing my lips when I get down to his level to tell him off 🤣 little bugger is fast as lightening and he knows how much it pisses me off.

Yes. But I do my best to take a deep breath and tell them 'this is not the way to get my attention' or 'this is not the way to get what you want'. Just saying it out loud helps me realise what they're doing too. Usually then I will sit down and relax with them (its usually when I'm running around doing something!)

God yes. Popped into DSs classroom the other day as he wanted to show me around and I missed the open afternoon due to work. He said not to touch and one of the dtd age 7 went along touching everything with a smirk and looking for a reaction. Just seeing how far she could push him and me.

Asked to behave once then a screen ban 24 hours no if, buts or exceptions. One warning do as you’re told or screen ban. Whining about screen ban will double it then follow through.

only works when your dc has something they value though.

Both constantly.
Dd10 shouted there is a mouse. She meant a pic mouse.

Every time I ask her a wrestling she will say the opposite answer and every time I believe her.

Dd12 shouts hysterical and everything I fall for it. Turns out she wants a drink.

Oh I shout @CatchersAndDreams ! I’ve also done the arm grab which I hate myself for, in fact it’s what I did with the laundry situation. It releases the rage but I don’t think it’s productive really as it just teaches him to shout. So hard not to though!

@womaninatightspot sounds just like something my ds would do. How do you handle it?