I don't want my manager as a Facebook friend

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I felt obliged to add her as she sent a friend request. Since then I only put photos of things that are not the sort of things that I used to put. I am not normally passive but I really wanted to work in this place but felt early on she put me on the spot by doing this. Do managees check out new employees this way? My settings are private.

If you do t want to delete her, you can restrict her access so she sees just the bare minimum, but please don't ask me how to do this lol

Just restrict then so they can't see anything you don't want them to.

Have two accounts, if you use SM a lot (I don't but know people who do and do this): one account where you are happy to add work colleagues, aquaintances etc; and another "locked down" account that doesn't come up in searches that is just for actual friends.

Just edit what she can see. Bob's your uncle!

You can pick who sees what you post and exclude her if you want. I can't remember how exactly but I'm sure Google will tell you

don’t accept next time, I hardly ever do.. I ignore a lot of LinkedIn requests never mind FB. But yes just restrict

You can select her as an acquaintance and then select your posts' privacy settings to exclude acquaintances.

I always decline but make of point of speaking to them about it at work. I keep my work and personal life very separate. My boss does not need to know about the 25 sambucas or drank last Saturday

God, this is why it's simpler just to have a "I don't add anyone I work with" policy. You can be selective about how you interpret that. A lot of my colleagues clearly do have each other on FB. Feels suffocating to me.

This is very unprofessional of your manager. I don't make friends with my staff.

Yeah just restrict what she can see. She’ll just think you don’t post a lot. Or you can have each post set so that she doesn’t see it. It will say friends except manager

You can create different lists of friends on Facebook (you need to be logged in via a browser, not a phone app or ipad app).

Have a restricted list that excludes your boss or anyone else you accepted out of obligation.

Select this restricted list as the default audience for your Facebook posts.

Occasionally, on some innocuous post you don't mind sharing with your boss, change this post to all friends. Then your boss will see this, but not your other posts.

Do it once a month or two. If your boss says anything, jusy say that you barely use Facebook these days.

Same - accepted it as was too chicken to address it. Then went back and deleted all my political or contentious posts and now am stressed all the time. Don't be me.

Also be aware of other colleagues she’s friended: even if you block your manager, if other friends tag you you may come up in their feeds and your manager may still know what you’re up to though their feeds, though on a limited scale.

Deeply unprofessional of your manager.

*through their feeds

Personally I’d decline the request and say to her that you’re sorry and mean it in the nicest possible way but you don’t accept anyone onto your Facebook unless they’re family or extremely close friends.

P.s if you say that, make sure your friends list is private as she may see you’re friends with lots of people on Facebook (if you are) and then will know that’s not true.

I always block colleagues before they get the chance to add me!

I turned off the friend request feature on mine. But yes, change her to restricted, or else tell it is actually family only as your family don't want to share any pictures if random people can see them.