Do I approach the teacher or leave it?

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DD just started reception. For background she is a happy little girl usually, confident and very well behaved, always following routine. At least that's the feedback we got from her nurseries, never had any issues.

Last week again the teachers said she did amazing and we should be proud. But I know she can get a little overconfident and get a bit 'silly' and I was concerned that she'll show this side of her at school.

Yesterday at collection she was really upset that the teachers told her off. She was visibly upset and told me she cried at school (never happened before). She kept telling me throughout the evening that I should tell the teachers to be more kind, but she wouldn't tell me what happened. I keep asking her why did the teachers tell her off and she says...oh I forgot, oh..I don't know..oh I'll tell you later!

Today at collection she told me again she is upset about it and again she won't tell me what happened. What do I do?? I honestly don't want to raise it with the teachers as I don't want to be that parent, but she won't let go.

You need to ask the teacher

Just ask. Tell the teacher your DC has been upset recently, but won't tell you why.

Yes, ask the teachers what happened. No need to be accusatory - just say she came home upset 2 days in a row and wondered if the teachers could shed some light on what might have caused it

I would definitely talk to the teacher

This.

It's actually quite hard for usually complaint kids to deal with being told off. It's something they have to learn but you can't help support her and explain why she was told off if you have no idea why!

I would ask the teacher what happened.

My dd is the same, but she did tell me what happened with a little bit of digging and it turned out she was talking and the teacher reminded her not to talk when he was talking and another time she was messing around rather than listening - perfectly reasonable from the teacher, but she felt she was being "told off". She was I suppose, but we talked about it that she shouldn't have been talking and now she knows, she can pay more attention and learn that the teacher needs different behaviour at school than at nursery.

Sometimes, I think when they've been at nursery, although the do prep them for school, it's not the same and so it might feel like they are being "told off" or it's "not kind" but it's perfectly reasonable for the teacher to be clear on behaviour expectations.

Thank you, I'll ask the teacher tomorrow at collection x