Ever need a good cry? And then you can get on with things

[Greyrainyday]

Hoping you'll help me feel this is normal! Feel free to have a grumble yourself.

I'm very sure I'm not depressed, work is busy, I'm tired and hormonal, the house is a mess, kids tired and have colds.

I am currently sat in car with a coffee and have had a good cry. I don't want to call someone for a chat and make it a big thing because tomorrow I will be back on track. Hence MN.

Now I'm thinking tidying the house would have been better having a pointless cry!

Oh do I! I have just found out at the grand old age of 38 I am at the beginning of menopause. Doctors visits and just feeling like a massive bag of shit for the last 9 months. I want to cry and feel a bit like 'well that's that then' with regards to being a 'youngish' woman and it's all down hill from here.

@Rockingcloggs has the doctor been helpful? A couple of work colleagues have felt amazingly different after starting HRT. Although I think it takes a while.

Yes, she has. I have another appointment on the 12th to think about my options so hopefully will come away from that feeling a bit more positive!

Don’t feel bad about this, I think it’s normal! Pent up and repressed emotions need to come out somehow. I had a good cry last night cooking dinner while DP was out, we’ve had a tough year and I’m being strong and supportive for him but have to let it out somewhere. I felt better for it, like a bit of a purge.

Be kind on yourself, it’s easy to bottle stuff up so as not to burden other people 💐

100%. I think a "good cry" resets me.

All those times I've bit my tongue, recieved an unkind reaction, been someone else's pillar....it's cumulative and builds up.

Having a good cry let's all that negativity out, and allows me to move forwards.

Completes the cycle so to say. I always feel better and more productive after. Also never call anyone cause like you say, back on form after.

So let it all out . Then never return to this thread cause it's a reminder haha.

Oh I am exactly the same. When something bad happens or I'm major stressed, I have to cry and get the tears out! I'll have a snotty nose and blow it then wipe my face and carry on.
If I don't cry I feel even worse and holding it inside just doesn't work for me.
Crying is good, a release. It's how I've gotten through most of my troubled years.

Hope you have a good day OP

It is a release isn't it, I feel a bit like when it's muggy weather wise and then a good downpour clears the air. Thanks all, sometimes maybe we need to stop a bit for a breather before ploughing on.

Yes!! And scheduling that time alone in your car / wherever regularly!!

Yes, works for me. And I'm generally considered to be the sort of person who handles crises big and small well, logical, not overtly emotional, etc. Perhaps it's because I don't think that this is a 'pointless' cry that I function pretty stoically the rest of the time even though my life is various degrees of shitshow at the moment (and usually... ?). Not perfectly by any means, I just mean that I think it helps rather than hinders in keeping an even keel overall.

Sometimes I'm not even upset. Often I'm angry, or frustrated, or overwhelmed, more times than I'm upset. Sometimes it's mostly tiredness and/or hormonal. Nothing to be ashamed of, any of those.

Give yourself a bit of time (commensurate with the level of problem(s)) and then don't allow yourself to wallow further, and get on with things.

I think it's a wave of sadness I feel occasionally and it used to knock me off kilter. I think this time I stopped when I needed to and just let it wash over me so maybe the morning out wasn't pointless.

How are you feeling now?