Sen parents how do I get a tough skin?

[Motherofmonsters]

My DS is 5 (July birthday) and has a sensory processing disorder. He struggles at school with being a bit too rough and boisterous, struggling to concentrate etc.

I've always had to come in for chats or be pulled to the side when queuing etc.
He was playing rough with another child at lunch and scratched their eye. He told them he was hit in the nose and mouth. The school aren't sure whose at fault/started it as it was a game they had made up.

I've now got a meeting with the head teacher and I feel absolutely sick about it.

I'm not sure what else I can do, he's been under Senco since he was 18months, the child psychologist has been out and written a report. He goes to private therapy every week (£65 a time)

I just feel so upset about it all but I can't keep crying, feeling sick every time something happens, I'm meant to be working but I can't function and won't be able to until I have the meeting. I'm going to end up crying through the whole meeting as well.

How do I toughen up, it's going to a long road through the school.

I know how you feel, I’ve had the regular emails or calls from school too and your heart just sinks.

I think ask the school if they think there is anything else you can be doing. And then do that (assuming it’s not insane!). Then you’ve done everything you possibly can. At the end of the day there is a limit on what you can do when he is in school and you’re not there. Have you spoken to the school’s own Senco?

I personally also found it helped to drop DD’s diagnosis casually into conversation with other parents every so often, so they were hopefully less likely to be judgey. Obviously some still will be but sod em.

Also: Reception was definitely the worst. It helped to give DD the afternoon off every so often as tiredness was/is a big part of her issues. Would you be able to do that?

Thanks for your reply, I've spoken to the SENCO a few times but it seems to be the same conversation. I've got the report so I'm going to take them with me to reference
His behaviour doesn't really change on tiredness, he's just the same at all times.
I've got the report so I'm going to take them with me to reference.