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The behaviour of some family members

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Raul57 · 10/09/2022 23:47

I've fallen out with at least one of my siblings and also had fallen out with my dad. Our storie/s did not catch the attention of the press.
What people should remember is family has its ups and downs as is life.
People should never gloat when they see, hear and or read about a family of any status falling out etc and try to pour fuel onto the fire.

As human, I find it very easy to guide/advise people when they have problems and problems with their family/friends. However, when it involves myself, everything that I tell others goes out of the window. After all I'm just human and as we know that blood is thicker than water so when I feel wronged (rightly or wrongly so) for whatever silly reason I feel as though I've done nothing wrong and I'm owned a big apology. Sadly the minor fallout grows into something big and for me I did not get a chance to amend/etc as my sibling died young in an accident. He was only 28 and had his life before him and I regret my behaviour but it is too late for me to turn the clock back

Anyone reading this - we may think we have x amount of years to live, sort things out/etc/etc but in all honesty, we never know what's around the corner.

Though IMHO I'm an ok person, I know in my heart and have told my family that
I can be a better person by a good 99% but silly/stupid me am too old to change and typing this post is aiding me to be nicer to my family and loved ones.

Life is too short to remain upset over egos and we all need to step up and not just make our own lives happier/better but those around us.

Yes, I know it's easier said than done and there are a small minority of people that will never learn

I feel sad and depressed but most of it is my doing, my fault as possibly I'm too sensitive and take almost everything seriously and negatively. I need to chill out as my family often tells me.

Please feel free to slap me down as I deserve it and seriously and honestly I'm not looking for symphaty.

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Minimalme · 11/09/2022 12:43

Sometimes families are better apart. I think you are idealising what 'letting things go' means in practice.

When families split, there is usually abuse and dysfunction. No one should stick by their abuser because if society notion of blood being thicker than water.

AlisonDonut · 11/09/2022 12:47

Give it a fucking rest with the Royal Family shit, Jesus you people are obsessed.

J0y · 11/09/2022 12:49

I'm sorry you lost your brother. 28 is no age.

I read in some mediation articles that I was reading that instead of hoping for an apology, look for some understanding from them that they hurt you. That that actually means more.

Sadly my own mother won't even show me that.

Sometimes you have to stay away from your family to protect yourself. You can have all of the best intentions but what they project on to you erodes you.

I feel so disappointed by my family because like me, they value family!!!! But they cannot see themselves clearly.

It's sad but I cannot ignore reality.

Xx 🌺🕯

Raul57 · 11/09/2022 20:35

AlisonDonut · 11/09/2022 12:47

Give it a fucking rest with the Royal Family shit, Jesus you people are obsessed.

It's my real life and the royals are no different.
I guess at times enough is enough until it's too late.

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Raul57 · 11/09/2022 20:37

@Minimalme
@J0y

Thank you. We are all different and what works for one may not work for the other.

If I had another go at life. I'd be a much better person

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