Does social media ever…..

[GucciPearls]

Make you feel like a bad mum?

for context, I mean when you see mums constantly out doing things with their children, constantly posting about the tiniest achievements, nice clothes, holidays etc…

im feeling a bit useless today. I recently split with my OH and I’m struggling for cash so our 6 weeks wasn’t the greatest and I feel like I’ve been a bit distant with my DD..

Then social media just magnifies how useless I’ve been.

No, it’s mostly just bullshit.

Yep agree with above it’s bullshit

If it makes you feel like that then stop using it.

Thanks

I think you're following the wrong people. 99% of the pictures in my feed are people parking their kids in front of the TV or moaning about being hungover with a small child (both of which I can relate to!)

We only see what people want us to see. You might look at a perfect photo of a happy smiling family but they may well have been screaming at each other a few hours before, the house a tip & the kids covered in glue or something! Just a fraction of a life is online.

I often sometimes feel like that when I spend time with a lot of mummy friends. I think the competitiveness starts to get to me, although I’m not at all competitive by nature, and I start worrying we’re really behind.

Social media has the opposite effect on me! I mostly feel I’m doing an incredible job in comparison to everyone else 😂

I have felt like this at times I lost my job last year that had a good salary and since money has been tight i felt bad at times that we've not been able to everything we used to but then someone said to me it's not about the money you spent it's about the time you spent kids wont remember that you spent xx amount of pounds on them going out to where ever what they will remember is the time you spent with them even if that's going to the park or baking cakes. Ignore social media mums it's all about show with them.

Och, I have felt like that a lot with my kids, I don't actually have social media but it's always the same isn't it? Talking with other mums they always just talked about the good stuff, never the monotonous bits! I am sure you are doing better than you think you are, but you sound a bit down and flat in general, and that's probably not surprising as you're short on money and have recently split up.

It's a big adjustment in your life, single parenthood. But you got through the summer holidays! I'm sure your DD loves spending time with you. Just do what you can, and don't worry about how you measure up to anyone else. Looking back it all goes much faster than it should, just all that stuff about being present and just trying to make the best out of the day... that's all we can really do, and in my opinion it's all that really matters.