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First week at secondary and not sure what to think about this.

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User473847284737 · 09/09/2022 18:24

Obviously not happy...

DS is 11 just started secondary, he's mentioned that an older child said he was 'going to beat him up'. He seemed happy when he got home and has only just mentioned it a while ago.

DS is also autistic and has anxiety amongst other issues.

I can't get much sense out of DS but he said an older child who he already knows as lives nearby and he's always got on well with, told the older boy where to go and stuck up for him and it also meant that the older girl knew the boys name and DS went to the head and the senco (who he had met a few times in year 6 to ease transition, so I am glad he is comfortable going to them) and told them.

I am glad the older girl stuck up for him. She always looked out for him when they went to primary together.

apparently older boy has apologised but i am worried sick this is just the start of more.

its clearly been dealt but we are only 3 days I. And I'm worried sick.

ds has opted to stay in the library or hall so far for break time to avoid the playground as it's quite hectic. They only get 35 minutes for lunch and by the time he's finished eating I was hoping there was no time for bullying.

but this happened whilst walking in between lessons. It seems he just walked by DS and said it.

what if he's alone next time it happens??

do I still need to speak to the school??

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Maëlys · 09/09/2022 18:36

Your son did the right thing in telling the senco and head. He needs to do that every single time there’s an incident (hopefully he won’t need to). Maybe you could also keep a diary of how he’s getting on and include any incidents like this so you have a record of it all.

You should speak to the school. Just make them aware that your son has been targeted and threatened. Even though he’s fortunately not too bothered by it, his disability still makes him vulnerable to bullying and he should never be expected to tolerate it.

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User473847284737 · 09/09/2022 18:45

Maëlys · 09/09/2022 18:36

Your son did the right thing in telling the senco and head. He needs to do that every single time there’s an incident (hopefully he won’t need to). Maybe you could also keep a diary of how he’s getting on and include any incidents like this so you have a record of it all.

You should speak to the school. Just make them aware that your son has been targeted and threatened. Even though he’s fortunately not too bothered by it, his disability still makes him vulnerable to bullying and he should never be expected to tolerate it.

Ty. Bullying is awful for any child but having sen does make children so vulnerable.

I have just emailed. I know it won't get picked up til Monday but sent it over now anyway.

I can't help feel they should have informed me as it could have affected him after school and all weekend but maybe it's not the norm to do so!

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Maëlys · 09/09/2022 18:57

Yes, it’s a bit surprising that they didn’t mention the fact that he’d gone to see the head. Have you had much feedback from the senco about how he’s been getting on this week?

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User473847284737 · 09/09/2022 19:44

Maëlys · 09/09/2022 18:57

Yes, it’s a bit surprising that they didn’t mention the fact that he’d gone to see the head. Have you had much feedback from the senco about how he’s been getting on this week?

Senco has been pants, his form tutor has been giving me feedback though.

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