Should I persist with Gilmore Girls when I find Lotelai so intensely irritating?

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Going through a bit of a tough time at the moment, and on a different thread asking for recommendations for comforting cheering TV programmes a lot of people suggested Gilmore Girls, which is something I’d never watched. I’m half-way through the first series and I do like it, and yes it is comforting and is the TV equivalent of a comfy pair of slippers, which is exactly what I need at the moment. But Lorelai grates on me so much! The constant long-winded meant-to-be-funny answers to every question she’s asked, the fake ditziness, the way she treats her friends like shit. Does she calm down a bit? Like with Friends when they’re all a bit over-the-top versions of themselves in the first series, and then settle down a bit into their characters?

No, the first two series are the best. If you hate her now it's going to get much worse.

I watch it for Emily. Her character growth is so huge. And you pick up on so many little clues about why she is the way she is.

So many things annoy me about GG.

I didn't like it first time round, my DD15 loves it so I've caught some episodes when she watches it on Netflix.

It is so irritating.

The fab homely house she as as an allegedly fairly struggling single mother.

How she always looks perfect including the morning she slept in, discovered all her clothes were in the dry cleaners & wore denim shorts & cowboy boots to do the school run

The coffee. And the meals. She's always drinking coffee - except she never actually does; they arrive in to the cafe place for food, get huge plates & large coffees. Have one bite & skedaddle.

It's so inane!

I ADORE the Gilmore Girls but sorry if you don’t like her now, chances are quite small you’ll adjust!! Some great suggestions for alternatives above though, although I’d say New girl you might possibly have the same problem (I love Zooey Deschanel but friend gets very full on about how annoying she is!)

For other suggestions if Gilmore Girls isn't quite right, I love and find easy to watch Chesapeake Shores. It's junky but lovely!

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I watch it for Emily. Her character growth is so huge. And you pick up on so many little clues about why she is the way she is.

Ive never told anyone this but bar the extreme wealth, my Mum is so Emily Gilmore. And I feel the exact same as you. It honestly makes my breath catch sometimes because I’ve always had to convince people my mum has layers, not enough people see her as she should be seen

I'm watching it now and I'm finding the relationship between Lorelei and her mother interesting as it reminds me of mine!
I don't mind Lorelei but am really irritated by sookie, her husband, Kirk, Lanes mother. They are all ridiculous, time filling characters in my eye.
Found Dean so boring too.

I loved Lorelai, hated Rory. My feelgood series at the moment is Heartland (and there are about 15 seasons), but I second Marvelous Mrs Maisel too as the main character is so brilliant, you can't not fall in love with her.

I loved Gilmore Girls for AGES, BUT :

On subsequent rewatches you really end up rooting for Emily

Lorelei is a terrible person, and the new series they did she was even worse and so was Rory.

Without spoiler what eventually becomes of Rory is oddly fitting, but Lorelei was ghastly throughout

I love Gilmore Girls but do find Lorelei annoying, more so for me with the series’ progression.

Her parents characters really grow and I end up really liking Jess and I guess, like family, you accept the good and bad after a while.

GG is my comfort TV so I’m watching for about the 5th time currently and must say, I do enjoy it for all it’s irritating bits.

The fab homely house she as as an allegedly fairly struggling single mother.

@EarringsandLipstick She’s not struggling anymore. She runs an inn, she made enough to buy her own home.

She couldn’t afford Chilton because private school fees are extortionate but she wasn’t struggling.

@YellowTreeHouse

She's a manager of a mid-sized inn. The house she has doesn't correlate to that job.

Also the early episodes absolutely focus on a 'struggling single mom' trope but it makes no sense.

I know it's meant to be schlocky & unrealistic but it does that in spades.

Lauren Graham played a version of Lorelei in Parenthood but did so much better (as Sarah). Loved that show.

No. If you don't like it by now don't waste your time.

I love it and adored both main characters from the start, but we all like different things.

Parenthood was incredible. Agree she is more toned down and less sitcom y in that.

@EarringsandLipstick I’m rewatching from the beginning now. I don’t see any struggling single mum references tbh.

I think the house matches up considering she worked herself up. Larger houses are much cheaper in the US because land is so cheap. That size isn’t uncommon and with only really one floor to speak of (there’s only Lorelai’s bedroom upstairs) it’s not massive.

You'll soon find it's Rory you dislike. By the end of the awful four parter 10 years on Rory was so clearly exposed for the entitled selfish brat her mother tried not to raise her up to be and it was Lorelai who emerged as someone I'd like to know.

My DD says this too!
I don't think I got far enough to see it

I do like some of the exchanges between Lorelei & Rory.

I’ve found my reaction to GG has changed as I’ve aged and grown. I rewatched it recently and like others Richard and Emily were the highlight. Emily in particular, she has many layers to her character. I also love Paris, for sheer amusement value.

Rory is actually not such a great person. I don’t know if that’s actually the whole point, but in later seasons I found her frustrating and shallow. She doesn’t seem to learn or grow as a person.

Lorelai does do this whole ditsy mess of a single mum all the way through though and if you hate it now I’m not sure it will improve. Sookie is the character that really grates though.

@CaptainBeakyandhisband Agreed! Sookie really annoys me too.

I have just started this series for the third time because people keep telling me it's the ultimate Autumnal comfort telly but halfway through S1 and I have given up again because Lorelei irritates me so much. I'm so glad to read that other people struggle with her too.

I've gone back to The Good Witch and re-watching all of them instead.

I find them both quite irritating especially Rory which is a shame because she started off quite likeable. I like Lorelies clothes though.

As PP have said, if you stick it out for a bit longer, you'll find that Rory overtakes Lorelai in the annoyingness stakes.

I agree with trying Schitt’s Creek as an alternative. Give it a few episodes though.

Lovesick is ace too.

And year in the life Rory is just a dick. Her life choices really didn’t pay out. I was quite disappointed really.