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Disruptive child at school

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Ladypam · 07/09/2022 21:59

My DD just started Reception this week. She is very excited about it and can't wait to go every morning. DD has got a friend Daisy (not her real name) with whom she had a few playdates over the last 10 months or so. Daisy was going to the same Jersey as DD but in the afternoons only so she and DD have never been in a classroom together before, except for one time when they had a nursery trip.

Daisy's parents insisted that Daisy is put in the same class as DD at school to which I didn't object until the nursery trip. She was very disruptive, she didn't comply with anything and generally very hard to deal with.

We haven't met over the summer at all but I know from Daisy's mum that Daisy was really looking forward to starting school because her friend DD was going to be there in her class. Yesterday they had the first day together at school and my worst worries started materialising. DD reported that Daisy was very disruptive, was constantly calling her to go a d play with her at book reading time and the teachers had to intervine to make her leave DD alone. Today was the second day and DD reports that Daisy was 'very naughty' and she is bothering her all the time when they have to sit and listen to the teachers. Again the teachers had to 'tell her off'.

At the stay and play session on Mon I did voice my worries to both the teacher and TA.

Daisy's mum was texting me today that Daisy was very many and anxious about going to school today, they found it very hard to motivate her, of course she didn't like being told off all the time, she expected to go to school to have fun with DD.

How do I approach this? I know a SEN teacher from a different school who said schools are very good at identifying and dealing with potential SEN but I just feel sad that DD has this stress on her shoulders having just started school. Anyone can relate to this?

I believe the parents are in denial and have to clue about what's going on.

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Johnnysgirl · 07/09/2022 22:01

Does Daisy have sen? I can't believe the school allowed anyone to "insist" on what class their child was put in, though.

changingroom · 07/09/2022 22:05

Stay in contact with the teachers, make sure they know how your dd is feeling. Daisy will settle or not but the teachers will deal with it.

Most importantly let DD know she is a good girl and doing the right things. Say Daisy is struggling and doesn't mean to be doing the wrong thing.

DD needs to know to tell the teachers her worries.

It's early days and a steep learning curve for some children.

liveforsummer · 07/09/2022 22:06

I think the staff already sound well on top of this. I'm a TA and we'd certainly identify this quickly and make sure it's nipped in the bud. We are very hot on differentiating good friends from good learning partners.

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Creepymanonagoatfarm · 07/09/2022 22:06

Be less available to Daisy's dm imo. Never ends well messaging about each other's dc issues..
Let school deal with them.

Ladypam · 07/09/2022 22:08

Johnnysgirl · 07/09/2022 22:01

Does Daisy have sen? I can't believe the school allowed anyone to "insist" on what class their child was put in, though.

The nursery teacher was suggesting that if the kids have made friends at nursery, she'll put them together for Reception. Daisy's parents told her that they want Daisy to go with DD. I didn't object to it as I wasn't aware of this. I found out when they were put together.

I suspect Daisy has some SEN

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 07/09/2022 22:09

Daisy’s issues are not your problem. Sounds like the staff are aware and it might be you stressing your DD out over all of this.

mIt’s been two days! Let them settle in.

Ladypam · 07/09/2022 22:12

liveforsummer · 07/09/2022 22:06

I think the staff already sound well on top of this. I'm a TA and we'd certainly identify this quickly and make sure it's nipped in the bud. We are very hot on differentiating good friends from good learning partners.

Thank you, that's reassuring. I'll stay out of it.

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