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Should I contact her?

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NameChanger567 · 07/09/2022 19:24

Around 1 year ago, there was a girl in my tutorial group at university. She tried to be friendly towards me and I was standoffish back towards her on one occasion. I am so so ashamed of the way I treated her. I feel guilty about it everyday. The reason I did it (and I know it is no excuse) was because have been hurt a lot by people and treated badly by a lot of people and I had some mental health problems at the time. I know what I did was awful. I really wanted to message her on LinkedIn (I don't have any social media) and apologize for how rude I was to her. I do not expect any reply back. I just want her to know how sorry I am.

Should I contact her to apologize?

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SpinningFloppa · 07/09/2022 19:29

No I wouldn’t, I often think people apologise to make themselves feel better and ease their own guilt rather than caring about the other person so I would ask yourself why you really want to apologise? Personally I would leave it.

NameChanger567 · 07/09/2022 19:53

SpinningFloppa · 07/09/2022 19:29

No I wouldn’t, I often think people apologise to make themselves feel better and ease their own guilt rather than caring about the other person so I would ask yourself why you really want to apologise? Personally I would leave it.

The reason that I want to apologize not to ease my guilt because I know I will still feel guilty about it. I just want her to know how sorry I am for hurting her feelings

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