Moved house and feel like I’ve made a horrendous mistake

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when I broke up with my ex in pregnancy I panicked and didn’t know what to do. I felt really alone and scared. I decided to sell my house and move back where I grew up so I was closer to family .. but my family spend half the year abroad anyway.

ive moved from a terrace in a busy suburb of a major northern city, with access to coffee shops and Costa’s etc to a small village with a few pubs and nothing else. I have a car and there is a small train station fifteen minutes drive away and there are some bigger towns within ten mins drive too.

the house is really nice, much nicer than my old one. But I feel like this was such a mistake. Don’t know why I’m posting just very at sea.

How long have you been in your new house ?

@MissMaple82 3 weeks

I did something similar I sold my house with my ex it was in a town and had pubs, shops, restaurants and everyone I had got to know over the years and moved in with my new partner onto his family farm with a village near by with one pub and a small corner shop. I feel like it's more effort to be able to get in my car and go drive somewhere to get a coffee or shop and with only one pub it's not somewhere I want to be all the time. I don't regret most of my decision but I do feel so much more lonely here

Give it time.

Anyway, you can always sell it again and go somewhere else. Tell yourself that you'll wait until after Christmas, and then think about moving somewhere new.

3 weeks is nothing. Takes time to settle and adjust

3 weeks is too short. It always takes me some months or a year at least to feel at home after moving house.

I've lived in lots of different areas, including abroad.

If you still feel the same in 2024, then you can always move again. It's a big thing to do, so I'd give yourself time first to make sure.

Good luck, I hope you feel happier there soon.

Give it much more time, you are hardly in the middle of no where and you have a car...
Probably in the shock of all that has happened to you you would be feeling lost anywhere...try and put in to place something nice each evening ie a call to a friend, a swim at a local club, etc, enjoy turning your much nicer house into a cosy home...and vow to give it 6 months....

Hope you start to feel more settled

Ok, it doesn’t seem like a good place to be alone with a young child and one that may end up isolating you and your child from friends quite a bit. I have been in that situation with a partner and even so, I can tell you it was the most lonely and miserable time of my life despite loving the house.

I would put it back in the market for a higher price, it will take some time to sell but in the meantime you can decide where to move or whether you want to stay.