Was friend potentially being bitchy or not?

[afterthenightday]

It’s kind of slowly come to my attention that potentially friend doesn’t want me to have a boyfriend (she does have one) - jury is still out but it means my judgement might be a bit clouded.

She threw a big birthday party for her boyfriend on Saturday. A mutual friend of ours said to both of us she was going to try and set me up with friends boyfriends single friend.

Barely saw friend at party as she was busy mingling and I didn’t attempt to speak to the single friend either and neither were we introduced.

Then today friend decided to tell us he went home with someone that night. Like I really couldn’t care less, I just don’t know why she’s bring it up as I don’t know these people and never spoke to either of them.

I feel like maybe she said that just in case I had liked him?

Guess not

I think you’re overthinking this. it may be a case that friends just never got the opportunity to introduce you, or potential boyfriend had his eye on someone else, or they changed their mind on suitability. I think saying that means friend doesn’t want you to have a boyfriend is stretching it a bit.

Honestly, OP. So your friend never declared to you her intention of setting you up with this man, you barely saw her at her party, weren’t introduced and didn’t try to speak to him, and you think k she was being ‘bitchy’ for mentioning that he’d gone home with someone, and that means she doesn’t want you yohave a boyfriend?

Isn’t it just as likely she had a vague idea you two might hit it off, forgot about intros on the party night because she was busy hosting, and idly mentioned him having gone home with someone afterwards because, you not having ever even spoken to this guy, she’s assuming it won’t much matter to you?

So she mentioned she had a single male friend she might try to pair you up with, didn't and he hit it off with someone else.

You are definitely overthrowing this. No she wasn't being bitchy or potentially bitchy.

She wasn’t the one who said she’d try to set me up with someone, a mutual friend of ours (who also knows the boyfriends friendship group) did and was in that conversation at the time.

So as far as friend knew the plan was to set me up.

When I saw him I actually had no interest. So I didn’t speak to him myself or ask out mutual friend to introduce us.

She then days later said he left with someone in their group. When I really don’t care that a stranger went home with another stranger.

As I said at the start of my OP there’s been other instances that have made me feel like this. I’m not basing this solely on one incident.

She didn’t mention it. Mutual friend did.

I saw him had no interest. The man doesn’t know I exist.

As far as friend was aware the plan our mutual friend had was to set us up. But then she put on the chat that he went home with someone.

I’m not explaining myself clearly.

“I’m not explaining myself clearly.”

Nope, you’re not 😉

I think it’s a good thing she told you - I’d want to know if a potential love match had copped off with someone else!

I don’t think it was bitchy, more just informing you of what had happened.