Feeling so nervous about DT’s starting nursery

[tuesdayblues1]

My 3 year old twins are due to start school nursery this week. So far they’ve had 2 settling in sessions (which I’ve attended with them)

Neither of them is shy, but one of my girls is very tiny - still in 12-18 month clothes and fallen off the centile scale for height - BUT she is feisty!!

we’ve had 2 incidents in 2 days. Both much bigger children screaming in her face or today trying to take a toy off of her and then when she resisted they picked up a toy brick & threw it at her. Luckily teacher stepped in straight away.

Both girls are feisty but my tiny one is particularly so. I want her to stick up for herself and I believe she will but I’m a little scared that by her size and her personality she will make herself a target.

how to do you navigate this? They’ve attended private nursery so far so they are used to other children but this is a much larger environment. Maybe I’m totally overthinking this, I’m just so nervous (as most mums probably are) that they settle in ok.

I've never met any child described as "feisty" by their parents who wasn't actually bolshy/pushy/aggressive... Maybe have an honest look at her behaviour and think about how these scenarios might have actually played out.

I’ll tell you exactly how they played out!

she was stood with me at the music table and another child came up to her and screamed in her face - teacher very near by told child off and threatened to put favourite toys away

outside she was pushing a lawnmower, walked past a group of other bigger children, biggest one there tried to take the lawnmower off of her - she resisted and hung onto it! Other child didn’t like it so threw a toy brick at her!

they’ve both had glowing reports from their previous nursery

I really don’t know why you need to be so rude, when I’m genuinely asking for advice.

You let them get on with it. In my sons nursery children take toys off of him and he does the same. It's constantly teachers navigating this until they learn not to do it which takes time and patience. They are 3 year olds at the end of the day. Some 3 year olds behave like 5 year olds and some behave like 1 year olds.