Is this cheeky? School related.

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Hi all, Dd goes to our local primary a 5 minute walk away. She's due out at 3.20 and if they come out at 3.20 we get home by 3.25 ish. But often later if they are late out, often the gate isn't opened until 3.20 and then they don't leave the school until 3.25 and home at 3.30 ish.

my oldest school transport is due home at 3.25-3.30 ish depending on traffic. Because the primary keep sending the kids out late I'm pushing time to get home for DSs taxi getting home (he has sen).

woild it be cheeky of the school to ask if they could ensure my Dd comes out promptly at 3.20? She has sen too and has 1:1, would it be cheeky to ask? It's not like she's coming out early.

ds attended the school up until the summer tbh e school are very aware of his needs and that I cannot risk him being left outside on his own - which I don't think the taxi driver will do but 🤷‍♀️ But he's the first stop in the afternoons so there's other children waiting to get home. It's not like he will ever have to wait for long but I don't know what else to suggest!

but I don't want to be a nightmare for the primary school when my oldest no longer goes there.

or tell the taxi that on same days he may have to wait a few minutes??

It’s not cheeky. I’m sure the school wouldn’t have an issue.

I don't see it being a problem, I see a few children that are brought out early to the gates by classroom assistants, for whatever their reasons are. Definitely a reasonable request.

It's not cheeky, but it's probably more feasible to ask the taxi driver to wait a couple of minutes if necessary. I'm sure in their contracts they have to hand the child over to an adult anyway.

not cheeky to ask but could your ds get dropped off at dad's school so you are always there to collect him? or is it just a once every other week problem?

Thanks I will consider both. Talking to the school as they have been prone to not rushing them out and also the driver. I'm hoping that his taxi might get slightly later!

I did tell the taxi firm I had to pick up my youngest at 3.20 and be home by 3.25-3.30 and she said they wouldn't be back by then - but they have been. I guess it depends on traffic!

It's a possibility but I'm not sure they are allowed? Also some days we will be home before him! I will
speak to taxi again tomorrow and then DD's school!

I will only ever be 5 minutes away from home. It's a couple minute walk for me as an adult but 5 with Dd. We are lucky to live very close to her school so it could be worse!

My DDs 1:1 brings her out early to avoid the end of the day rush as it distresses her. I don't see any harm in asking, we've made similar allowances for children where I work too.

On the days dh will be off it's a non issue as one of us can stay home but not as easy when it's just me. But it could be a lot worse I think!

I would tell the class teacher that you have to be home for the school transport and could she let your dd at the front of the line at home time.

If she says yes, then tell dd to remember to go to the front of the line and to make sure she has everything.

my son used to do the same, for years he'd come out early and it really helps as he really struggles with the rush of all the kids coming out (and the mornings) . Dd has sen but manages the rush fine! It's not really so much early just promptly!

This has always been an issue at the school my
DS attends, one parent has her dd in his class and her other dd in another school 5 minutes drive away (her other daughter attends a specialist school) . I heard her ask the class teacher can she please ensure the kids are out on time (they can be up to 10 minutes late coming out of class) due to having to fetch her other child and the teacher said ‘it wasn’t her problem’.

In my son's class, there was a boy with autism
who was collected 5 minutes before everyone else because the after school rush was too much for him. Later on, the arrangement became he was first in line which worked well.

As a teacher, I can tell you that many children leave schools early for sensory/disability related reasons. I would liaise with the head and the class teacher to organise the ‘head of the line’ plan and ensure that other adults are made aware, especially a TA, so that it works if the teacher is absent.

I'm hoping the school will be okay. For years they let DS leave a few minutes early as he found it overwhelming and he only left there in July! I'm not asking for early either. I know a class of 30 kids is hectic but it annoys me when they are out late every single day!

Thanks all! I just need to remember that I'll never be far away. DD's school is about 0.2 miles away so I'll never be far away from home! It just feels stressful when you re stood around waiting for her to come out and they are taking their time 😩

I would definitely ask OP. It's only 5 mins but that 5 mins is very precious for you to ensure everything runs smoothly. I can't see the school having an issue with it.

My son had SEN, his transport would wait a few minutes, but the problem being that it adds up because every parent might have tight timings and be running late and then it gets ridiculous.

Usually the first week or two of term was spent fine tuning who was on which route and the order in which kids were picked up/dropped off. It might be worth seeing if they can drop him off later in the run if timing is so tight.

Absolutely this is why I'm trying to avoid! I've since found out that the other riders are siblings so it's only one more stop after DS and only 5 minutes away so might be an idea.

I've emailed DD's school too.