Long hair on boys

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Ds is 7 and has decided that he wants to grow his hair out. No problem with that. Except I have no idea what to do with it.

For years he had short hair, crew cut hair and even a Mohawk with shaved sides. But never long hair.

I had a dd and her hair is long enough to be tied up.

Ds’s is a bit of a messy mop right now. Not long enough to be tied back, but also long enough to be a mess.

So, parents who have boys with long hair, come and tell me tour survival tips please

At the moment, it sort of looks like this. Just not as styled

My sons hair was short this tim last year. We did a lot of swooshing over to one side as it grew into his eyes. I got easier when he could tuck it behind his ears. It’s past his shoulders now and it’s so easy. He wears it in a ponytail for school and down the rest of the time.

My son has long hair. He does have hair bands and it is really long now so does put it up.
Think Jack Grealish type of hair band just to keep it out of eyes.

Thank you. So it’s basically try to make it sit so he can see and not look too much of a mess .

It’s so thick. DD’s hair is really thin. Complete opposites

DS is 11 and has hair down to his shoulder blades. He likes it down at home but at school he has it tied up or in braids of various styles (he says they're his Viking braids).

Growing it out was a bit of a pain but we used to tie up the top of it sometimes as his was very straight and soft and just flopped in his eyes.

Thank you all

This is the worst stage op, once it's long enough to tuck behind his ears it'll be easier to manage.

At that length I used to tie my ds's top bit up like a pineapple to keep it out of his eyes. Tiny pineapple to start with then finally long enough for a top knot 😁

My fifteen year old son hair is really long psst the middle of his back he started growing it in lockdown ,problem is he doesn't really take care of it it's really thick and curly so gets knotted ,I'm taking him to the barbers tomorrow ro make it more manageable

It’s sort of long enough to tuck, just won’t stay back.

Its the top of it really. Looks like someone cut someone else’s hair and stuck it on there

Need to take him to a hairdresser really just to trim it and tidy it up.

He needs a tiny trim. Even long hair needs a bit of a trim to keep it looking good. Those thin hair bands that footballers wear are OK. I would insist on it being under control for sport etc.

DS has hair like that when it is due a cut. We either: sweep to one side and stuck it behind his ear; tuck it into a hat, or tie the top up in a little mini-ponytail like David Beckham in the early 2000s. All look cute and are deemed acceptably non-girly by his friends.

Thanks all!

We all need the hairdressers really but this is handy on how to style it.

When my daughter’s hair was growing out like this it was just a headband job. Or braid the front/top parts and leave the rest. Reminds me of when my girls were young and I used to do them a ‘pineapple’ hairstyle of just the top tied up!

Two sons with long hair. Both refused the pineapple thing and hairbands. It was basically in their eyes constantly (a year?) until long enough. Only thing that wasn't refused was a beanie hat in the winter.

Both my sons have long hair and it's really thick too which made it look mop-ish during the growing stage. I took them to the hairdresser. Hairdresser took some of the bulk out of it all with thinning scissors and then put some long layers in it so that it grew in a neater shape rather than all over the shop.

Well. This is ds’s hair this morning. He’s well chuffed with it. Though I bet dh won’t like it

I was right. Dh hated it. Said he looked like a gay footballer and I’ve set him up for bullying.

Mind you, if dh had his way, ds would have a crew cut whether he liked it or not

Erm that sounds like a really worrying attitude your husband has. Hopefully he didn’t say it in your son’s hearing.

No. Dh is at work and messaged me only.

It’s well known dh doesn’t like long hair on boys. But he also knows ds is old enough to choose how he wants his hair.

So he’s putting up and complaining to me outside of ds’s hearing

When Ds was growing his hair, we had the back and sides cut short while the top was growing.
Then when the top bit got long enough grew it all together and had it cut so it was one length.
He used to wear it up for school but down for evenings and weekends.

Oh okay. Well I suppose that’s one thing. Just be careful as this type of toxic masculinity plus the homophobic undertones he’s got going on don’t disappear. They’ll be imprinted onto your kids in other ways. Make sure you don’t let your kids hear the idea their father has that looking like a ‘gay footballer’ would be a shameful thing to be bullied for.