I had a really close group of friends (3 couples) which have distanced in the past year, due to some ill feeling between me and another member of the group in particular. She was pretty cruel to me when I was going through a rough time, leaving me out of things, arrange secret meetings with the others as I was ‘bringing her down’. I think she was going through stuff but couldn’t be honest about it, projected that it was about me. As I was often the one that arranged meet ups etc the group haven’t met over the summer which has been so sad as we have raised our kids together. The other members of the group agree with some of my issues with this particular person and have been on the receiving end of it but I have just found out that the other 2 couples are going to each other’s house on Saturday night.
i am a successful mum of 2, lovely house, good health. Life is good. But I feel quite lonely when I think about this situation, like everyone is getting out and enjoying life and I have just isolated myself away. I am torn and feel like stepping away from them altogether because they are just making me feel shit about myself. They are my best friends though and some of them were so supportive to me. Plus one of them is helping me with a business deal. I don’t want to be too specific but had a rough 6 months last year, this isn’t on-going neediness!
Im in my late 30s, I feel like I am back at school and am annoyed that I have allowed people to get under my skin so much. I hate feeling so vulnerable to others and for their actions to make me feel bad about myself. My husband is pretty non-committal about the whole thing as he is quite a solitary person who enjoys his own company. I on the other hand like to be sociable. My son has just started primary school so I am maybe looking at that being an opportunity to meet new people. Or do friends wane as you get older?