Today is my birthday and my husband says only teenagers do things with their friends and I should have just celebrated with my family.
But I did want to and had made plans! I have 2 children, one 20m old and one 7. We've all been a bit poorly this week so all still a bit tired. I had planned a family day out then in the evening for a few friends to come over to hang out. But the family day out didn't happen. The 20m old had been refusing naps all day and suddenly fell asleep before we left the house. My husband was exhausted and fell asleep too. I asked my 7 year old if we could just go for the day out together and he said he didn't want to. The 20m was out for the count. I had planned to go to the shops and grab some bits for people coming over after the event so when my husband got up, I did that (having missed the event I had planned for us to go to).
I spent about an hour and a half at the shops cos I stopped to have a cup of coffee since it was sunny and I had missed the day out (buying a few beers and a cake for my kids in the shops). When I got back I spent the time with my family until my friends came at 8pm. And our 7 year old hung out with me and my friends until his bedtime.
I had planned a day for us and it didn't go to plan. Everyone was asleep and surely it was me who should have been miffed? I think it's fine to have some friends over on your birthday, usually my husband would have joined us but he was feeling under the weather - he urged me not to cancel even though I said many times I could. It was no raucous party, just 3 friends, one who's about to give birth. My son was crying later (having not gone to sleep) saying he felt like he missed my birthday. I always plan my birthday around my family. Is it not ok to have a bit of adult time in the evening when I barely go out? Am I in the wrong here?!